If he purchased it for someone else but things went sour then yes I would be upset but if he got it second hand from someone else then no big deal. That would be easier to take then he being the one to purchase it for an old flame.
I think the ring should be significant to the relationship or be a special part of the family like an heirloom that has been passed down for generations.
First, that he was probably really wise with not selling it back, getting less than he'd gotten, and then purchasing again. So, there's that logic.
Second, that he probably wasn't sentimental to objects or he would have gotten rid of it. So, to him, it's just a ring and not "her ring."
Third, everytime I'd look at it I'd remember that he had someone else in mind when he picked the style, colors, metal.... I think that would haunt me.
I would have a fit, frankly. I think the ring you buy for your fiance/spouse should have a certain amount of consideration when chosen, and I like knowing when I look at my ring that my husband chose it just for me because he knew I would love it, not for some other woman.
I wouldn't be happy, that's for sure.
I would be pissed. I wouldn't want a ring that was originally picked out for someone else.
If it was a family ring that would be different.
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