My head is spinning out of control.... :/
My husband asked me for a divorce back on Jan 28th. He said he don't love me any more and hes unhappy. I felt blind sided but I asked him to try and work on it and go to counseling with me. He agreed we would try. We went twice to counseling went on dates and continued to have sex up till... Two weeks ago he went offshore and I went to a funeral in another state. He came home before I did and when I got back he said he tried as much as he could and he wants a divorce. I was in shock but I said ok. I did ask him to answer me one question. He said ok. I asked him if he has been talking to another woman. He said yes. He wont tell me who it was, where she is from, or if its a old friend. Said it dont matter. He has since changed all passwords to his computer, phone, phone bill, everything!! Im still in just disbelief. He also said he is no longer talking to her.
I have done everything possible to try and understand what happen. My question is.. How do I get over him. I just want all these feelings to stop and go away.
He does not want to work things out. He will not go to counseling. He is not even willing to talk about the situation. He just keeps saying he is done and that he wants a divorce. We talk and are able to get along for the most part since we are living still in the same house. I just want to stop trying to fix it and move on. I don't know how do this. :/ I just want to move on and turn the love I have for him off. Can anyone offer advice? I tried to go out with friends this weekend and the only thing I did was get tipsy and call him crying. That just adds to the issues he wants nothing to do with me. Everytime I ask him to just talk to me he gets mad and upset.
How do I turn all these feelings off like he did and walk away???