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Should a man be forced to pay child support if...?

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A couple gets together and he says he doesn't ever want kids and she agrees BUT secretly wishes to have them in the future.

She goes on the pill and they use condoms as a backup measure, just in case, because he's adamantly against having children but isn't ready to be sterilized just yet.

A year or so later, she decides she wants a baby and not only stops taking the pill without telling him but also sabotages the condoms.

When she gets pregnant, he reminds her he doesn't want kids, never did, and urges her to abort. She refuses, but when the baby's born she takes him to court for child support.

Should he have to pay child support even though he was forced into fatherhood by her deception?

by on Apr. 14, 2014 at 5:16 PM
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saywatuwill
by on Apr. 14, 2014 at 8:55 PM
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The answers given so far just show a double standard. A woman has a way out via murder/giving the baby up but a man is stuck with whatever HE decides. His decision is having sex but a woman's isn't. Riiiight. 

SmallTown_Momma
by Member on Apr. 15, 2014 at 7:12 AM
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If he really didn't want kids , he should have gotten snipped.

And if a man is really going to sit there and fight to pay child support after looking at the child that he helped create , than he should give up his parental rights as well.

danandsamsmom
by Bronze Member on Apr. 15, 2014 at 7:16 AM

Of course.

coolmommy2x
by Ruby Member on Apr. 15, 2014 at 7:20 AM
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He should have had a vesectomy and worn a condom as backup. Was she wrong? Yes but he didn't do everything he could to prevent pregnancy either.
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TaralynnStewart
by Silver Member on Apr. 15, 2014 at 7:22 AM
He should get snipped or not have sex. He should have to pay .
PhotoMommax2
by on Apr. 15, 2014 at 7:45 AM

I think the mother in this situation is wrong, with that said...he knew the possibilities when getting into his situation. Condoms and birth control are not 100% effective, if he was absolutely sure he didn't want kids he should have not had sex or gotten a vasectomy. 

The child didn't ask to be brought into this world and it's his PARENTS, both of the parent's job to take care of the child.  

jslpruitt
by Silver Member on Apr. 15, 2014 at 9:28 AM

 I agree. But I don't think that matters.

Quoting jomami:

 

Quoting jslpruitt:

 you can't prove that it was actually sabotaged. and birth control and condoms are not 100% eff anyways.

 

 If she kept taking the pills and they didn't work, that would be one thing.  If she stopped taking them but didn't let him know and kept having sex with him, that's totally different. 

Doesn't seem right that he'd have to pay when he was lied to and tricked into sex with someone who wasn't using any birth control!

 

ForeverInLove
by on Apr. 15, 2014 at 9:31 AM
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He had sex?

Yup.

Have fun proving she sabotaged it.

If you KNOW you don't want kids, you get fixed. Or, don't have sex. Or, have sex with your hand. Or, just have oral sex. Or, have anal only sex with men only because the sperm and semen mixture could run out of her ass and grace the opening of ger vaginal canal making it possible for it to swim in and find an egg. 

If you have sex, be prepared. Period.

reche1978
by Bronze Member on Apr. 15, 2014 at 9:34 AM

its hard to say how can you prove she was sabatoging the pill/condom? also he could be lying about not wanting children who knows what he says to her in private......

but thats the risk a man takes when having sex

ladytweet
by Member on Apr. 15, 2014 at 9:37 AM

really woman have been doing it for years with athletes !!!!! if he doesn't want to pay that badly he should sign his rights away ...

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