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Should a man be forced to pay child support if...?

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A couple gets together and he says he doesn't ever want kids and she agrees BUT secretly wishes to have them in the future.

She goes on the pill and they use condoms as a backup measure, just in case, because he's adamantly against having children but isn't ready to be sterilized just yet.

A year or so later, she decides she wants a baby and not only stops taking the pill without telling him but also sabotages the condoms.

When she gets pregnant, he reminds her he doesn't want kids, never did, and urges her to abort. She refuses, but when the baby's born she takes him to court for child support.

Should he have to pay child support even though he was forced into fatherhood by her deception?

by on Apr. 14, 2014 at 5:16 PM
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starreyedcutie
by Platinum Member on Apr. 15, 2014 at 12:29 PM
I agree with you

Quoting jomami:

If she stopped taking the pill without telling him and messed with the condoms so they wouldn't work, it doesn't seem fair that he should have to pay. 


It seems like she totally scammed him and tricked him into having a kid!

JZB
by Jessie on Apr. 15, 2014 at 2:19 PM

no

nickysmom71
by Platinum Member on Apr. 15, 2014 at 2:22 PM

No...that's a bitch right there for real....I know someone who did almost exactly this...it was fucked up...

If a man ALWAYS states and is adamant that he DOES NOT want kids and she does something to make sure she does...no fucking way should he be responsible.

 

NM710
by Member on Apr. 15, 2014 at 2:33 PM
I didn't have to read you post to answer the question. Yes. He created the child. He's responsible for the child planned or not.
LTryon
by Silver Member on Apr. 15, 2014 at 2:39 PM
What were his reasons for not getting snipped if he was 100% adamant that he never wanted kids?

Quoting jomami:

 


Quoting jslpruitt:

 you can't prove that it was actually sabotaged. and birth control and condoms are not 100% eff anyways.


 


 If she kept taking the pills and they didn't work, that would be one thing.  If she stopped taking them but didn't let him know and kept having sex with him, that's totally different. 


Doesn't seem right that he'd have to pay when he was lied to and tricked into sex with someone who wasn't using any birth control!

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Birddie02
by New Member on Apr. 15, 2014 at 3:55 PM
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This is a complete double standard.,,, he was completely against having children he took the only non invasive approach a man can take to not have children n tht is condoms ( which she secretly sabotaged) every man doesn't want a vasectomy n shouldn't b forced to get one jus as a woman who doesn't want children doesn't Get her tubes tied..
He voiced his opinion n she still did her own thing..... N got herself pregnate on purpose without his knowledge or consent.... N
NO HE SHOULDNT have any responsibility to a bby he NEVER wanted... Her deceit her choice her body her baby ... None of tht was him all her .. Now she gotta suck it up her n her bby move on jus as if she would of inceminated herself ( as she did she jus used an willing/ unwilling penis to do it)
happinessforyou
by Silver Member on Apr. 15, 2014 at 4:11 PM

Whenever you have a naked penis you have the baby potential.....

I get how she stopped taking the pill and then LIED about it, but how the hell do you "sabotage" a condom? You unwrap it and roll it on.... How the hell would that even happen? lol

I do however feel sorry for the child born out of lies and manipulation....

Avarah
by Bronze Member on Apr. 15, 2014 at 4:20 PM
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He's been the victim of fraud and will be forced by the courts to pay the person who victimized him for 18 years.

I agree that men should be given the option of resigning their parental responsibilities, especially in cases of fraud.

If you think women don't poke holes in condoms, then you're not paying attention. Several charming whores on here have admitted to doing it and/or lying about taking birth control.
pinkcoffeecup
by Gold Member on Apr. 15, 2014 at 4:41 PM

yes.  It takes 2 to tango.

Sara-1989
by New Member on Apr. 15, 2014 at 4:42 PM
Nope. No one should have to pay for an unwanted child.
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