This is the third time Ive tried writing a post and I get kicked off....I'm going to type fast! Sorry for spelling errors, using spell check is when I got booted.
I am a SAHM since my son was born August 2010. I have a 14 yr old daughter from a previous marriage. I went to college and worked in the medical field in between. I live in the city and have recently made the decision with my country mouse husband to move to a small town. The small town is where he is from originally, his parents still reside there. As I was told by my husband, everyone knows everyone, everyone knows (almost) everything about everyone and word spreads like wildfire. I;m feeling a bit stressed as I am accustomed to neighbors being strangers and no one paying any mind to who I am most of the time. I made this decision as I am wound a little too tight! I thought that getting out of the hustle and bustle and crime ridden city where I hear sirens daily wound do me some good. I felt I may be a lot more adaptable than my husband who doesn't care for city living.
Since I have stayed at home with my son, I have heard all kinds of remarks. Whether they thought it was admirable in this day and age, to, "it must be nice", to "I couldn't handle that!". Well, whatever. It was our choice and just how things worked out for us. So anyway, as I said news spreads like wildfire in our future small town. Before I've even hada chance to pack a dish or a book....I've been bombarded with inquires if I would consider baby-sitting so and so's children since I'm at home anyway and I could probably use some extra cash. Ummm....I'm not sure how to feel. I felt annoyed, a little insulted, like gee why not I just sit around doing nothing anyway! The thing is I don't want to baby sit. Just because I chose to stay at home with my children doesn't mean I want to stay at home with someone else's all day everyday. Otherwise, if I did, I would run a daycare... I don't know how to say no. I don't really know these people, I've never been officially introduced. They are friends of my husbands and I'm sure I'll see them regularly. It just felt a little presumptuous to assume I'd agree to care for someone's kids because I'm there anyway.