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I feel miserable, can someone help with advice?

Posted by on May. 1, 2014 at 11:48 PM
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I am 5 months pregnant and I can not stand the fs ther to my unborn baby . We hardly hangout because he works 6 days out the week and the only day he has off he so ends it with his friends smoking weed not to mention when he is home he's in the bathroom smoking weed, looking at porn or on chat lines . I cant take it anymore imran starting to think this was all a mistake.
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jconney80
by Platinum Member on May. 2, 2014 at 12:01 AM
Hi I'm sorry that you're struggling. Is he willing to get help? Go to counseling? Have you told him how you feel? It's totally up to you but if he isn't willing to change for his child it's going to be a tough situation =( ((hugs))
KendallsMommee
by Bronze Member on May. 2, 2014 at 12:03 AM
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Sorry.

It's a little late now, though.

Hope it works out for you.
Slady444
by New Member on May. 2, 2014 at 12:10 AM
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I am so sorry you are having to go through this. It is a very scary situation to be in and I know you are feeling the hurt. You are about to enter a very exciting stage of life and you should be able to be excited and looking forward to the future. There is no law stating you have to be in a relationship with the father of your child, and in some cases it's better if you aren't. Are you married? Is there anyone you could stay with until you get your feet on the ground? If you are pregnant with his child and he is more concerned with getting high and hanging out with his friends than he is for your happiness, it's time to step back from the relationship. Sometimes people have to lose someone to understand their value and how much they love them. The separation doesn't have to be permanent. Your baby deserves a loving environment and you deserve to be given an environment where you can focus on this wonderful time and the baby you are bringing in to this world. Take care of you first!

Best of luck!

 

dusky_rose
by Sue on May. 2, 2014 at 12:39 AM

Do you have family or friends you could go stay with? I can see why you wouldn't want to be around him if he is acting that way.


funhappymom
by on May. 2, 2014 at 7:35 AM

I'm sorry you are dealing with this. Is he willing to quit smoking weed and stepping up to be a good dad? Now is the time to get out if you think you need to. Get some counseling and decide what is best for you and for your baby.

KidsEduMaster
by on May. 2, 2014 at 7:51 AM

I would suggest you to involve some common friends and family members to do the talking. Have a hearty chat with him whether he wishes to be with you and your baby or not.  

booaura
by Bronze Member on May. 2, 2014 at 7:57 AM
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Then leave. Get your own place, and tell him to grow up or get gone.
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Endgame
by on May. 2, 2014 at 5:07 PM

Can you talk to a family member about this? I've found talking to older ones like a grandpa or grandma in the past to be helpful, because old people have gerations of experience behind them and, are not judgemental.

I am sorry you are suffering like this. But you could apply for counselling providing your partner is willing to have it.


Bmat
by Ruby Member on May. 2, 2014 at 9:23 PM

It doesn't seem at all healthy for your unborn child to be exposed to weed smoke. It is time for you to set up on your own, support yourself and your child.

lovemyson82
by New Member on May. 2, 2014 at 9:56 PM
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He sounds like my ex husband! I just want to say, your not married, if he doesn't step up and be a man then you better start thinking of ways to raise this baby on your own. I don't want to sound negative, but there's a good chance that he won't change, although he might when you give birth! I would have a back up plan though, just in case!
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