New to cafemom just looking to vent/share
My new mil is a nosey crazy bitch with no life so naturally her adult son's are her life I wish I could say my fil was better but omg he is not! To make a long story short
They bought everything pretty much
Threw me a baby shower
Welcomed me into "their" family, loved them at first
I gave birth and things fell all to hell, the in-laws stayed away said they did not want to intrude -_- my mil worked at the hospital I gave birth at ..she barged into my l&d room got updates every 10 mins pulling rank and kept coming in and out of my room making things all about her as I push a baby out, I over looked this, tho it was odd other nurses were even like umm but no one did anything.
Again they stayed away, waiting for us I guess to come to them begging for help never happened they then accused us of neglecting them/keeping them away from their gc when they had a right to see him/hated them for no reason/DOING DRUGS all because we were home being 1st time parents also because we have plans to move, they said we can not move the thought sent mil into a panic, my son was not even two months old when this all happened.
She saw him plenty had him for hours at a time, even overnight she just did not see him every time she wanted to the in-laws were pissed the only way to make up was an all day visit or an overnight visit...I started to deal with ppd and having in-laws so crazed over my new child scared me and I did not want them around at all.
My mil would call crying and screaming about her rights so we naturally stayed away. My hubby and I started fighting,due to stress, and out comes HIS MOM with her new tactics causing drama to push me out hoping her son will leave me and run to her with MY baby Lol.
She involved herself in our problems making more accusations falsely, we were invited to dinner my SO texts and asked what time...she replied with long texts about old drama and fights me and her son had saying "I just do not understand why y'all are still together" I laid into her telling her to get out of my business/relationship that we were adults and that she needed to stay away from my family.
She took it hard supposedly she has been passing out injuring herself, but we have been staying away ...the FIL just contacted us telling us they will be coming to our home till we work this all out with them whether we want them here or not saying they need to know what's going on in our home since were acting odd
Sad part is, through all this with them not understanding and respecting boundaries/them not getting it they are missing out on their gs who they "love so much" he cries with them does not know them at all and I do not see that changing.