My sons name is Beckett. Has been since I was 20 weeks pregnant. The problem is his dad didn't want anything to do with the pregnancy or Beckett until he was 6 weeks old. At six weeks he began tormenting me saying that I needed to change the name, because he is biracial and Beckett is "too white". I'm white, his dad is half black. Beckett is now 8 months old, and I think the name has grown on him already, but his dad still REFUSES to call him by his name. He says Beckett will get teased in school, and that he's going to want to go by something else when he is older, and that I can't possibly understand what he will go thru because I am white.
I can understand his point, but do I want the first life lesson i teach my son to be to conform in fear of being teased? Honestly I don't believe he will get teased, we live in an area where biracial kids are not uncommon. I also fear that his dad will put the idea in his head later on that the name is a bad one, and that he's too "white" for going by it. Am I wrong for not wanting to change his name? Or should I continue to stand my ground and just ignore his fathers constant remarks about it?
on Jun. 3, 2014 at 4:54 PM