Me and my husband have been together 12yrs. Through the years we have had our ups and downs (majorly) but all in all I feel there is love there. I was raised in a single parent home; he was not. I am a only child; he is not. But sometimes I feel like I have the wrong idea of what a marriage is suppose to be. If I get a job and make what he makes or more he will do little things to make me feel small. I got approved for a home (his credit wasn't good enough) and he wasn't happy he said I didn't consider him. And after 3months of looking for a home in the summer he said he didn't want to get a house we didn't have the money but our mortgage would've been less than our rent, we need space we have 3 kids and a large dog. And we have good incomes but no write offs so we always owe during tax time. I thought this would be a way to cut that back. But then a month after my approval expired he cleared his retirement out. Speed up to tax lien, infidelities, and a heartbreaking abortion(this is all in a matter of 8months). I know this is hard for some to read but things had me wondering what to do. I have a child whom has issues and there are too many issues in my marriage. I try my best to be a "team player" but I thought that it was the right thing to do. Now he is saying he wants to be a team but I have doubts... Is this what marriage is like? Is this what it's about?
on Jun. 16, 2014 at 3:53 AM