when they fight - do you insert yourself or stay silent?
Good Morning All - on Friday afternoon my SD and her father got into a huge fight. This happens every single weekend. They yell and scream at each other over the most basic things. The last Friday it was because she was playing her music exessively loud in the bathroom - teenage girl; however the neighbor in the duplex is going through her 3rd or 4th round of chemo and SD knows this. Her dad asked her nicely three times to turn down the music, however she could not hear him because it was so loud, so he banged on the bathroom door and raised his voice to have her turn it down and I swear a nuclear bomb went off! There begins the fight of the weekend! It seriously impacts me because it is every single weekend that we go through some iteration of this crap. At this point I believe it is best for me to just stay silent and go outside. I am in a lose/lose situation. She is mouthy and disrespectufl and has flat out stated how much she "doesn't care about the neighbor" whom she loved and cared about for the past 6 years; hates it when we spend time with her; hates being asked to do dishes etc. I am exhausted and not only am I exhausted but when they begin fighting my dogs start to panic and shake. Is it right for me to remain silent and take my dogs outside, or should I be the rational calm voice of reason between the two of them? It truly ruined my weekend. What are your thoughts?