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Sex Trafficking awareness

Posted by on Apr. 10, 2017 at 4:21 PM
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I am writing this because I need help bringing awareness to the seriousness of


One day I come home from work and my 14 year old daughter is gone. I call her and she tells me she’s out with her friends and she will be home soon. I say no, come home now and then she hangs up on me. I don’t see her for days. I call the police and I report her missing as I frantically think of all the clues that I have to find her because something doesn’t feel right. I go to google and find out how to reset her passwords by guessing the questions to her recovery for her email password, I sign in to her google account for her phone, and see the things she recently googled and the things she was doing on her email. I see the word “Backpage” Not sure what this was, so I googled Backpage and kept going through things on that website and see escort. I then find my 14 year old daughters escort page where she is in a bra and undies standing in front of a mirror asking for dates. I freak out and I call the police and say help!!! They can’t determine where to locate her so they ping her phone and they get her. I discuss with my daughter what she was doing and she says she did it because she wanted the money and she was used to this life when she lived with her father in California for the last year. She promised to never do it again and I believed her.


A month later, she is missing again. I frantically do the same and this time she has no phone because I took it away from the last event. I can’t find my daughter, I go to Backpage and I don’t see her picture so I think smarter, she isn’t using her face in these pics, I look and go to her social media and use the fake Facebook page as I am acting like a teenager, that I created when she was in California with her father, and remember how I added a lot of her friends she had on face book. So I act like this teen ager and message some of her friends and ask for them to send me recent post of my daughter’s page (she made her page private and didn’t add my fake page). I get a recent picture of my daughter with her again in front of a mirror taking a selfie. I examine the picture and I look at the carpet in the background and then go to the hotels.com website and match the carpets in each picture in the area I believe she’s in. I locate which hotel, so I go to the hotel with the flyer I made of my missing daughter and show them, they say yes, they recognize her. We call the police; I get my daughter back again.

I now seek counselling and help for my daughter and try to figure out what’s going on. She continues to do this 8 times including going from North Carolina to New York. I get pictures from my daughter’s social media, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, snapchat. And I locate her every time. I matched hotel soaps, sinks and mirrors, pictures on walls, door frames in the background to match the hotels by using hotels websites. Now every hotel in a 45 mile radius now has a flyer of my daughter at the front desk. When she was found in NY, I matched the sink to a choice hotel at hotels.com, then I matched the shower curtain with the green stripe on top to be a Comfort INN then matched the door frame and the brown door panels, I emailed the comfort inn in Manhattan and they called the police and found that my daughter was there but checked out. I then got the name of the guy who rented her the room from the police as she’s 14 and I called all hotels in Manhattan to see if a guy with this name was checked in. Found HIM! He was arrested and my daughter was found. I have committed my daughter twice to the hospital as she is putting herself in danger, they release her in 48 hours, I have tried to put her in Juvie, but they can only keep her 24 hours, because escorting at 14 is not a crime. I have tried the counselling and get her in a locked behavioral health facility, they had no beds. There was just no success to help my daughter. I didn’t know what to do. I can’t watch her 24 hours a day, I’m a single mom and I have to go to work to support her. I have no family to help. After 8 times of running away and 2 times going across the states to NY. I finally got her the help she desperately needs. She is in a locked facility and getting counselling and help to get her off the drugs, and they are helping her realize the danger she was putting herself in to. She is angry but getting through it and realizing she needs help. They have arrested some people who were helping her as she is a minor and they were adults. My daughter is safe, I’m the lucky mom. I’m the mom who gets to wake up in the morning and know my daughter is alive and she is in a safe place. I write this so I can educate other moms out there who have missing teens to not give up, be strong, use the tools you have to locate your child. Do what’s right for your child and get them the help they need. If you need help or advice, or just someone to talk to, I’m here.
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NearSeattleMom
by Ruby Member on Apr. 10, 2017 at 5:20 PM

Welcome to CafeMom!

That sounds terrifying!  That really happened to you?  Why did your daughter choose to do that in the first place?

Quoting Momstrength: I am writing this because I need help bringing awareness to the seriousness of One day I come home from work and my 14 year old daughter is gone. I call her and she tells me she’s out with her friends and she will be home soon. I say no, come home now and then she hangs up on me. I don’t see her for days. I call the police and I report her missing as I frantically think of all the clues that I have to find her because something doesn’t feel right. I go to google and find out how to reset her passwords by guessing the questions to her recovery for her email password, I sign in to her google account for her phone, and see the things she recently googled and the things she was doing on her email. I see the word “Backpage” Not sure what this was, so I googled Backpage and kept going through things on that website and see escort. I then find my 14 year old daughters escort page where she is in a bra and undies standing in front of a mirror asking for dates. I freak out and I call the police and say help!!! They can’t determine where to locate her so they ping her phone and they get her. I discuss with my daughter what she was doing and she says she did it because she wanted the money and she was used to this life when she lived with her father in California for the last year. She promised to never do it again and I believed her. A month later, she is missing again. I frantically do the same and this time she has no phone because I took it away from the last event. I can’t find my daughter, I go to Backpage and I don’t see her picture so I think smarter, she isn’t using her face in these pics, I look and go to her social media and use the fake Facebook page as I am acting like a teenager, that I created when she was in California with her father, and remember how I added a lot of her friends she had on face book. So I act like this teen ager and message some of her friends and ask for them to send me recent post of my daughter’s page (she made her page private and didn’t add my fake page). I get a recent picture of my daughter with her again in front of a mirror taking a selfie. I examine the picture and I look at the carpet in the background and then go to the hotels.com website and match the carpets in each picture in the area I believe she’s in. I locate which hotel, so I go to the hotel with the flyer I made of my missing daughter and show them, they say yes, they recognize her. We call the police; I get my daughter back again. I now seek counselling and help for my daughter and try to figure out what’s going on. She continues to do this 8 times including going from North Carolina to New York. I get pictures from my daughter’s social media, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, snapchat. And I locate her every time. I matched hotel soaps, sinks and mirrors, pictures on walls, door frames in the background to match the hotels by using hotels websites. Now every hotel in a 45 mile radius now has a flyer of my daughter at the front desk. When she was found in NY, I matched the sink to a choice hotel at hotels.com, then I matched the shower curtain with the green stripe on top to be a Comfort INN then matched the door frame and the brown door panels, I emailed the comfort inn in Manhattan and they called the police and found that my daughter was there but checked out. I then got the name of the guy who rented her the room from the police as she’s 14 and I called all hotels in Manhattan to see if a guy with this name was checked in. Found HIM! He was arrested and my daughter was found. I have committed my daughter twice to the hospital as she is putting herself in danger, they release her in 48 hours, I have tried to put her in Juvie, but they can only keep her 24 hours, because escorting at 14 is not a crime. I have tried the counselling and get her in a locked behavioral health facility, they had no beds. There was just no success to help my daughter. I didn’t know what to do. I can’t watch her 24 hours a day, I’m a single mom and I have to go to work to support her. I have no family to help. After 8 times of running away and 2 times going across the states to NY. I finally got her the help she desperately needs. She is in a locked facility and getting counselling and help to get her off the drugs, and they are helping her realize the danger she was putting herself in to. She is angry but getting through it and realizing she needs help. They have arrested some people who were helping her as she is a minor and they were adults. My daughter is safe, I’m the lucky mom. I’m the mom who gets to wake up in the morning and know my daughter is alive and she is in a safe place. I write this so I can educate other moms out there who have missing teens to not give up, be strong, use the tools you have to locate your child. Do what’s right for your child and get them the help they need. If you need help or advice, or just someone to talk to, I’m here.


LancesMom
by Ruby Member on Apr. 10, 2017 at 6:46 PM

Oh my gosh that had to be awful. You may need to remove her access to the internet and get her help into a facility that can help her. 

Hugs!

Bmat
by Emerald Member on Apr. 10, 2017 at 7:23 PM

Your daughter sounds as though she needs some serious counseling.

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by Sapphire Member on Apr. 10, 2017 at 7:40 PM

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Hottmomma607
by Trica on Apr. 10, 2017 at 7:48 PM
WTH? I couldn't get through the first few lines without stem coming out of my ears! Only way my 14yo would hang up on me if we said "Goodbye! *smh*
What has her dad said about this? Hope he didn't know? How is that a 13yo/14yo free to run around a city doing God knows what? People get down on me for being a SAHM'S but I wanted to be available for my kids even as teens, especially as teens. I'm not judging you for being a WM. But this made me definitely reassure my purpose.
Have you tried talking to your daughter? Why doesn't she value her self-worth? She has much more to offer than her body. How is escort NOT illegal for an underage girl or anyone for that matter?
boymommyaz
by on Apr. 11, 2017 at 1:21 AM
I'm glad she's getting the help she needs . Let's hope this is all done by the time she hits 18-21 when she's an adult and can do her own thing and can't be locked up in a hospital cause hopefully this doesn't lead to a long adult life of drugs sex and prison or worse. Isn't sex trafficking when they're forced into it and not voluntarily doing so as your daughter has ?? Do you visit her? What is dad saying or what is he doing to be helpful ? And how long is she in treatment ?
Cenedra64
by Bronze Member on Apr. 11, 2017 at 8:00 AM

I was going to say pm me I know some people who can help but I read further and you say she is in a locked facility and getting help.  That's good,    Glad to hear that.  I'm sorry for all that you both went through.  

babyboxfish
by Bronze Member on Apr. 12, 2017 at 10:52 PM

Welcome.

I'm so sorry for what you both went through. Here's a bump. WIshing you the best.

midnight_storm
by Silver Member on Apr. 13, 2017 at 10:41 AM
I honestly think someone dropped the ball here and I don't mean you. Prostitution is illegal and at 14 it comes with a string of other charges as she is a minor. There are many organizations that help young girls such as your dd. I'm glad she's getting help now and seems less resistant to that help. Here there's an organization called Streetlight USA that gets girls help, helps them transition, and really does amazing things but there are other organizations such as sharedhope international that also has resources. I'm so sorry for the heartache you've been going through with her and hope she realizes how lucky she is because for many girls, women, and even boys they aren't so lucky.
Bellalee1
by New Member on Apr. 18, 2017 at 1:46 PM

Reading this and my heart goes out to you with all you've gone through with your daughter but so encouraged as to how focused you were in finding help for her and not giving up. A mother’s love is so powerful and will do all it can for a child. You have been so strong for your daughter and I pray she will get the help she needs and come through on the other side better and stronger. Thanks for sharing….hugs and all the best

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