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Porn

Posted by on Mar. 6, 2018 at 12:02 AM
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Ok so when my husband and I first got together over two years ago we had the porn talk. I expressed why I was not ok with him watching it and he agreed. Now almost 3 years later he's been caught a third time. I kicked him out. I'm not sure what to do here. It's not just about the porn. It's the lying and hiding it.
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Peaceful.chaos
by Bronze Member on Mar. 6, 2018 at 12:05 AM
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I think it's weird and controlling to monitor and set rules for what another adult looks at.
Emmasmommy2017
by Member on Mar. 6, 2018 at 12:37 AM
Cool story

Quoting Peaceful.chaos: I think it's weird and controlling to monitor and set rules for what another adult looks at.
BatKrazy
by Member on Mar. 6, 2018 at 12:40 AM
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Well lets think, why would he lie or hide it? because he knows you don't like it. It will and obviously cause problems between the two of you.  He obviously enjoys it and well I don't know is habits if they are severe or even appropriate pornographic material.  I think if he is just watching and doing what guys to do legal and healthy kind of videos or pictures. I would be asking myself is this really a battle I want. Is this worth ruining my marriage over?  Is this something we could spice up and breathe excitement into our relationship with to bring us closer? I would also be thankful its porn and not an affair. That whole saying about picking your battles, how strongly do you feel about this?  If it is bad porn, like kids and illegal stuff, or very obsessive than woman you do what you need to do?  I noticed with some of my close female friends they get jealous over a movie made from 1987, or pictures from magazines, or legal sites.  They act like feel they aren't good enough.  When most men it really isn't about that at all. Most men have higher sex drives and know especially after relationships age and change their wives don't want them crawling all over them 2 to 3 times a day.  We woman get like "enough already" we have a lot going on in our days. Work, kids, households, husbands all of it we are tired and often stressed or "not in the mood"  What is wrong with him taking care of his own needs once and a while.  Just as long as he isn't drifting outside of the marriage physically and emotionally I really don't see the harm.  We are sexual beings and there fore its is healthy.  I know lots of people don't agree and blah blah. 

Umi12
by New Member on Mar. 6, 2018 at 12:48 AM
I agree.

Quoting BatKrazy:

Well lets think, why would he lie or hide it? because he knows you don't like it. It will and obviously cause problems between the two of you.  He obviously enjoys it and well I don't know is habits if they are severe or even appropriate pornographic material.  I think if he is just watching and doing what guys to do legal and healthy kind of videos or pictures. I would be asking myself is this really a battle I want. Is this worth ruining my marriage over?  Is this something we could spice up and breathe excitement into our relationship with to bring us closer? I would also be thankful its porn and not an affair. That whole saying about picking your battles, how strongly do you feel about this?  If it is bad porn, like kids and illegal stuff, or very obsessive than woman you do what you need to do?  I noticed with some of my close female friends they get jealous over a movie made from 1987, or pictures from magazines, or legal sites.  They act like feel they aren't good enough.  When most men it really isn't about that at all. Most men have higher sex drives and know especially after relationships age and change their wives don't want them crawling all over them 2 to 3 times a day.  We woman get like "enough already" we have a lot going on in our days. Work, kids, households, husbands all of it we are tired and often stressed or "not in the mood"  What is wrong with him taking care of his own needs once and a while.  Just as long as he isn't drifting outside of the marriage physically and emotionally I really don't see the harm.  We are sexual beings and there fore its is healthy.  I know lots of people don't agree and blah blah. 

Emmasmommy2017
by Member on Mar. 6, 2018 at 12:57 AM
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Ok so apparently women on here like to be lied to and disrespected by their other half. I didn't realize this page was like that.
lapcounter
by Super Mom on Mar. 6, 2018 at 7:50 AM
This

Quoting Peaceful.chaos: I think it's weird and controlling to monitor and set rules for what another adult looks at.
lapcounter
by Super Mom on Mar. 6, 2018 at 7:52 AM
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I’m not disrespected at all, I’m spoiled and treated very well thank you.

Quoting Emmasmommy2017: Ok so apparently women on here like to be lied to and disrespected by their other half. I didn't realize this page was like that.
virginiamama71
by Carrie on Mar. 6, 2018 at 8:02 AM
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If it's not causing him to stray from the marriage don't worry about it.
Arigo
by New Member on Mar. 6, 2018 at 8:40 AM
I'm with you. Since you guys have already discussed and he agreed then his betrayal isn't your fault. If this is a serious deal breaker for you then you know what to do, if not talk with him about what the compromise could be? Maybe you make a special collection for him?but no one on this page should say just because your opinion on porn isn't in line with their own that you are controlling or "making a big deal over nothing".
Pink.Sunshine
by on Mar. 6, 2018 at 9:12 AM
I don’t really have a problem with porn my husband just isn’t into it at all
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