About leaving your children alone....post from yesterday

[Rhynestonefreak]

My post was locked about how I left my son in the car for 3 minutes when I ran to the redbox. Just look up the post if you want to know more. Anyways, I got a TON of messages of mothers that supported everything I did, and a few from some mothers that were not so nice. I think A LOT of us were shocked to learn that some mothers say they never let their children out of their sight. One mother even said she takes her baby out of the car while she pumps gas, and there were some pretty protective mothers. Anyways, my best friend came over last night for a cook out and we were talking about when we leave our children, for instance, I leave my son alone when I have to pee, I'm sorry but I'm not taking him with me to pee. Yes, he has started to follow me now, but when he was younger, I never took him to the bathroom with me. She agreed, then said she told me that when her son is watching TV she will take a shower, then do her hair and makeup. That kind of shocked me, because her son is 18 months plus she has a 3 month old. When I take a shower I will take one first thing in the morning before my son wakes up or wait until night time when my husband is home. So to all the mothers, when you take a shower, when do you do it, and to all the mothers who said you NEVER leave your child alone, what do you do when you need to pee or poo? Let them come with you? Or do you just hold it?

[mybabygirlz]

I must admit..i think its kinda ironic that you would leave your child in the car unattended , but you wouldn't leave him in a crib/play pen while you shower...lol..

Having said that...I shower in the afternoon when my youngest (17 mo old ) is napping and my 2.5 yr old daughter will either shower with me or she will be napping as well. If i left either of them alone in the house , they would get hurt or destroy something lol.

[bookwriter4kids]

leaving a child alone in a car for 30 seconds is considered neglect unless you are standing next to it.  (That's what the law says.  This is NOT my opinion)

When mine were little the baby sat in his car seat while I showered.

[cjsmom0206]

I'll shower when they are up, but they are usually following me into the bathroom! UGH!  I answered your post and supported you on it.  I do think that some parents go overboard which I believe can be more harmful.  As far as going to the bathroom, I don't have them go in there with me, they might stay in the living room when I'm putting clothes away, or straightening up my bed, I just check on them often.  I feel good about my decisions.

[pacman071606]

I am by no means a perfect mother, and I didnt see the post that you are referring to - but I do NOT leave my child in the vehicle. I have used the bathroom, jumped in the shower, etc with my child in the house, but never in the vehicle. I am one of those that you referred to when you said some moms even took their child out of the car to pump gas. Well - kind of. I take my son out of the car to run in and pay for the gas, then come back and buckle him back in and then pump the gas.

I have heard too many stories of people stealing cars while the children were still in them. Twice it has happened within a thirty five mile radius from the city I live in.

 

 

[Rhynestonefreak]

If you read my post from yesterday you will know that I was standing right next to it, and some mothers threw a fit.

Quoting bookwriter4kids:

leaving a child alone in a car for 30 seconds is considered neglect unless you are standing next to it.  (That's what the law says.  This is NOT my opinion)

When mine were little the baby sat in his car seat while I showered.

[urban_lover]

I thought there was nothing wrong with you leaving your son in the car for that, I just thought some women didn't know what the red box was, we have one in our area but it is in Wal-marts front entrance.  But I do leave my kids in the car when I get gas, I also have my dog with me 100% of the time.  He don't like strangers and scares the crap out of anybody that even comes near our van.  We have a full conversion van not a mini van so our curtains are always closed.  OH I also shower when my kids are watching the tele, but only if my oldest is home, and I leave the door open, they come and go as they please...

[TygerLily62]

DD is 16 mos and I always either take her in the shower with me, or wait till her nap time.  I would never leave her to just run around in the house.  And especially if I had a 3 month old!  Babies aren't mature or responsible enough to be left alone with infants.

[BEXi]

I usually do it when he's awake.. he will come into the bathroom with me and ill leave the door open so it doesnt fog up. He likes to listen to the water.

[KierstynsMom]

My DD takes a shower with me so I don't leave her unattended.. NO Way could I at 20 Months Old.. lol

[Mommy2_two]

Well since my DH works nights I wait until the kids are in bed and asleep before I shower. Sometimes my 6 year old will be awake and she stay in her bed reading books while I shower. My 2 year does come with me when I use the restroom (most of the time) she is potty training and likes to go in her potty when I go tot the restroom. When we are out in public of course both of them will come in the stall with me.

I think what you did was NOT a big deal!