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does anybody else think this is weird?

Posted by on Jul. 31, 2007 at 7:04 AM
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My in-laws decided to take "nudies" of my daughter - pics of her naked on the couch. My husband says everyone does that you use the pics to show the kids friends or whatever when they are older to embarrass them and say "oh haha thats your private area." but i find it creepy, especially for a little girl! Who knows where those pics could end up if they get lost some creepy child sex offender idk it creeps me out. Plus kids get embarrassed enough as it is without having naked baby pics passed around. I understand naked pics of a baby in a bathtub is cute - I have bath pics - but just a random time where they undressed her to take pics?? Plus they waited until I wasn't even home to do it. I think they were changing her diaper but then decided to take these pics of her laying there. And I feel if anyone should be taking naked pics it should be her mother! Am I overreacting? Does anyone else do "nudies"?

"Making the decision to have a child - it's momemtous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking outside your body."

 

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LoLosMommy
by on Jul. 31, 2007 at 7:08 AM
yes i think it is extremely uncalled for. it is one thing to take random naked shots i.e. bathtub, but to make a child pose this way is sick.
NewMom87
by on Jul. 31, 2007 at 7:08 AM
hii. I don't have kids yet but im pregnant and im expecting a girl...just like you I wouldent feel comfortble for others to take naked pics of lil girl or boy for that matter...what can I say the decision should be yours because your the mother and you have the right to do what you think its best for your self and the kids. if you don't like that idea then tell them so and thats it to it.

MasterMUA
by on Jul. 31, 2007 at 7:13 AM
Overreacting??
are you KIDDING me right now???

id fcuking FLIP MY SHIT!!!!

I dont like that AT ALL!!!

I would have called them out on that shit BIG TIME...

NORMAL people dont do that kind of stuff... Im sorry...

tell them it disturbing you (apparently it is, AND ME TOO)

Id tell them you think its sick and perverse... and that if it ever happens again there is going to be hell to pay

You are her MOTHER, if anything ever feels OFF to you, act on it. Regardless if you think you might be overreacting... dont take the chance...
she is too little to know whats right and wrong... thats WRONG!!!
She cant have a voice, you are her voice...

One thing Ive definitely learned is to always go with your gut... when I dont, Im almost always sorry I didnt

got me?
Robin
by Head Admin on Jul. 31, 2007 at 7:27 AM
Even though your daughter is only 1 month old, they should talk to you before taking naked pics of her like you described...
maliburose
by on Jul. 31, 2007 at 7:28 AM

unless they know someone at the picture place,...this is also considered child pornography now and most places will not print them or give them back. i forget exactly how it goes,... (my friend worked at a photo place, we're talking 17 years ago and it was already considered pornography then),but for the life of me i cannot remember exactly how it goes.okay,...i'm remembering. they have no way to know what is on the film until they develop it,... so when the pictures are printed everyone at the photo place sees them because they are definitely passed around but they are then supposed to destroy them and i THINK that particular negative too.but,...since the photos are already developed. you never know if they are destroyed or taken home with someone and then you do not know what happens.plus, they can make as many copies as they want. some people show a little leniency when it comes to baby, child photos, but no, they are not supposed to return any full frontals. they actually made a movie about it like 10 years ago based on a true story of 2 mothers who took pictures of their kids i believe at bath time. i believe they lost custody for atleast a little while until they went all through the legal system and of course CPS became involved and then everything that you are not supposed to do that a lot of people do (like kids of the opposite sex are not supposed to share the same room and definitely not the same bed. and parents are not supposed to share the same room with a child of the opposite sex or their bed.they are actually no no's) was held against them. they were really put through the ringer. i would be upset, especially since they seemed to make a special point of it. have they already had the pictures developed? maybe you can go to the photo place and tell them you do not want them printed or buy them first(provided you know where they were dropped off). and then i would be worried if they ever buy a polaroid camera!!!

i have taken pictures of my daughter in the bath with bubbles on her face the few times i let her use them, but they were either head shots or i made sure the bubbles hid everything else. GOOD LUCK!!!

MasterMUA
by on Jul. 31, 2007 at 7:31 AM
FUNNY YOU SAY THAT
MY FRIEND GREG USED TO WORKIN A LAB AND HE WOULD MAKE COPIES OF NASTY PIKS AND GIVE THEM TO ALL  OF US TO BE FUNNY

SO YEAH THEY LOOK...
CrystaLynn52083
by on Jul. 31, 2007 at 7:35 AM
WHAT?! That is just sick. Honestly I would take all the photos and shred them and delete them off of the camera. I understand cute bathroom photos where you can't see any privates, but to purposely strip your child down like that is just sick.

Honestly I wouldn't believe them. They say that they want to embarrass your child when she gets older. Well, I wouldn't trust them that much. I would always fear that they would do something perverted with the photos.

Being a child that was molested, if I ever had that happen I would never let them see my children again! As a matter of fact it was my paternal grandfather that molested me as a teen, and when I saw him at 2 family functions, I kept my kids away from him.

Sorry that is just me. I don't trust my grandfather because of what he did to me. Your in-laws might not be like that, but nowadays you never know for sure.


 

 


     


    

madhouseof5
by Silver Member on Jul. 31, 2007 at 7:36 AM
Yes I think in today times it is very bad

once they did take photos of babies laying on there tummy on the sheep skin rugs So you could see there little butt

But not anymore not good idea
Do have the odd photo of the children with little to on cloths as said in the bath or as they were getting dress AS now A new baby
Even have tho odd one of them sitting on the potty LOL but you could not see anything
this as bad as it got with my daughter Do not know why it seemed so wrong to photo her with nothing on So here is how we did bath time  shes a little bear LOL
Steph1499
by on Jul. 31, 2007 at 7:36 AM
Well my son he is a naked boy and i do take naked pics of him  if he happens to be runnin around . but to purposely  take the clothes off to take a pic  noooo.   
Kristina726
by on Jul. 31, 2007 at 7:39 AM

Quoting maliburose:

unless they know someone at the picture place,...this is also considered child pornography now and most places will not print them or give them back. i forget exactly how it goes,... (my friend worked at a photo place, we're talking 17 years ago and it was already considered pornography then),but for the life of me i cannot remember exactly how it goes.okay,...i'm remembering. they have no way to know what is on the film until they develop it,... so when the pictures are printed everyone at the photo place sees them because they are definitely passed around but they are then supposed to destroy them and i THINK that particular negative too.but,...since the photos are already developed. you never know if they are destroyed or taken home with someone and then you do not know what happens.plus, they can make as many copies as they want. some people show a little leniency when it comes to baby, child photos, but no, they are not supposed to return any full frontals. they actually made a movie about it like 10 years ago based on a true story of 2 mothers who took pictures of their kids i believe at bath time. i believe they lost custody for atleast a little while until they went all through the legal system and of course CPS became involved and then everything that you are not supposed to do that a lot of people do (like kids of the opposite sex are not supposed to share the same room and definitely not the same bed. and parents are not supposed to share the same room with a child of the opposite sex or their bed.they are actually no no's) was held against them. they were really put through the ringer. i would be upset, especially since they seemed to make a special point of it. have they already had the pictures developed? maybe you can go to the photo place and tell them you do not want them printed or buy them first(provided you know where they were dropped off). and then i would be worried if they ever buy a polaroid camera!!!

i have taken pictures of my daughter in the bath with bubbles on her face the few times i let her use them, but they were either head shots or i made sure the bubbles hid everything else. GOOD LUCK!!!

my brother in law works at the photo place and he was embarrassed his parents took these photos he hid them from his boss idk if he has the negative still but you made a great point about how the negative is just there in the store and anyone can get their hands on it


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