Time to end this friendship?

[TNBecca]

I'm between a rock and a hard place and am not sure what to do.   My husband and one of his friends have been buddies for 23 years.   They were best friends until his buddy got married and things changed.  Suddenly his friend didn't want to be around his old friends---just his wife's buddies.   He became very judgemental, materialistic and condescending.   My husband distanced himself and now talks to him maybe once a month.   

Because of his friendship with this guy I've done my best to get along with his wife. We became friends and talked pretty often for a while.  After our kids came we invited each other to their birthday parties.    That suddenly changed last year.  Suddenly we weren't invited to their daughter's party.    We assumed it was because they didn't have our new address since they asked for it at Christmas.  We invited them to our kid's parties and they came to one.   After they left my mom and MIL commented that the wife struck them as rude.   She didn't seem to really want to be here and even laid down on our sofa during the party and took a nap.  She said she had a headache but still---who does that during a party at someone else's house?

This year we are once again not invited to their child's party.   When my husband talked to his friend he apparantly got raked over the coals for not supporting McCain/Palin.   My husband no longer cares to associate with this friend because he says he sick of hearing about all the stuff they have, how much bigger their house is than ours, etc.  

I told my husband that I am not inviting them to the parties for the girls this year.  I also have no intention of inviting them to our youngest's baptism.    I'm sick of their attitudes and having to be one to maintain any kind of friendship with this guy's wife.   I'm ready to totally kick her to the curb. 

WWYD?  Keep trying to maintain the friendship with the wife?  Or just give up on it?  And am I wrong to not invite them to the parties?

[Sunrunner7]

IMO they are not real friends at all- real friends dont brag about how much bigger and better things they have than you, and real friends certainly dont end friendships because of who they are voting for in a presidential election.

I would move on because friendships like that aren't really friendships, especially for the ones who are bragging and making the other feel degraded. It is only a power trip for those doing it.

[IanAndMillasMom]

My DH went through a very similar situation.  His BF and his wife lived accorss the street from us too.  They became friends with some of my husbands family but we were always left out.  THey even went so far as to tell my DH sister and grandma that it was my DH that was ignoring them.  I was soooo freaking pissed.  His wife acted like my freind and then suddenly just stopped talking to me.  I agree it's time to move on!!!!  Luckily for us they moved out of state so we don't have to deal with them anymore.  They just email us from time to time with pictures of their kids. 

[1rn]

Kick them to the curb. They aren't worth your time or energy...

[sunrisekn]

There comes a time in to everyones life when they need to evaluate what is working and what is not working, that "friendship" is clearly not working.

No stress, no worry, just let it go. You and your hubby have wasted enough energy on them and it could have been spent in other places.

 

[lilmom71]

I have always felt that people who brag about what they have are hoping you will like them totally based on their surroundings which means they have nothing else to offer.  Its pretty obvious when she feels its o.k. to just take a nap on your couch and nobody should mind.  You shouldn't have to subject yourself to their behavior just because its your husbands friend.