Uggh am I wrong for not babysitting AGAIN

[Mommy2Jayson]

So this Saturday, my cousin is getting married. One of my favorite cousins at that.She's more like a bestfrtiend. I can't find a babysitter since I only trust family and I'm not going to take a 9 month old to a wedding, I know my son and I know he'll get mad that he has to sit still, and he'll start screaming, and there's drinking at the reception, so of course I'm not taking him... not only that but I find it rude to take a baby to someones wedding, when you know damn well they are going to cry...So I was alright with the fact, that I'm a mom now and I have to make some sacrifices. Completely okay, and my cousin understood... I told her we'd go celebrate when they got back from her honey moon

So anyways, my sister and my mom are going, since my sister has her husbands family to babysit.. except now they won't babysit for her.. Her MIL has to work and her SIL forgot and made plans. So since they couldn't do it, she had the nerve to ask me,. knowing how badly I want to go to the wedding. she's like "Oh I'ts not like you can drink anyways".... No I can't I'm underage, but there are other reasons to go to a wedding besides the open bar... She doesn't even know my cousins fiance's name. There is no way in hell I'm babysitting for her....

My mom says I'm being spiteful since I can't go I don't want anyone else to have a good time.. and that's not the case, I just don't feel like sitting at home on a Saturday night, the weekend that it was her turn to babysit anyways ((we babysit for eachother one night a month, so we can have some time out)) and there's always the fact that I've had her kids the past 3 weekends in a row.. just because she's tired of being a mom and living up to her responsibilities, doesn't mean she can pawn her kids off on me... And it wouldn't be so bad.. I love my niece and nephew and all..like they were my own... but they are 7 and 3 and they fight all the time unless they are crying over stupid stuff.. I told my niece that I wasn't telling her what I was getting her for her birthday, it's a surprise and she threw a fit.. She's 7 years old.. and I mean a full fledged throw yourself on the floor type fit... I don't want to sit here with her kids all night long,who refuse to go to bed until like 2 in the morning, and they are used to sitting in front f the TV like zombies.. I don't let my son watch tv all like that and they freak out if the TV is not on 24/7, I just don't want to deal with it.. If I can't go to my cousins wedding, then I want a nice quiet evening alone with my son... 

Oh and I missed my family reunion, because I had her daughter overnight and her daughter got sick..really sick, so I called her and let her know... She didn't come get her daughter until after she got back from the reunion and I wasn't going to take my niece out when she couldn't even hold down water...

Do you think I'm wrong???.. apparently everyone else does!

[momaloveof3]

Nope don't think your wrong at all.  maybe you guys could take turns.  She watches them for a little while and then you watch them for a little while???? Make sure she goes first though.....

[newmommyhjm]

That's crazy!!! Sounds like your sister has her priorities all messed up!

I think you should tell her that you have made special plans with your son... Maybe it'll work! Best wishes!

[hottmomma05]

Your not wrong at all, sounds like the only reason she is going is to get away from her kids and drink, not celebrate the happy occasion with your cousin like you want to do.  And I see no reason why your family should feel you are obligated to do a damn thing for them, since it sounds like they don't do much for you.

[Mommy2Jayson]

My mom does a lot for me, so I have no problem with her going instead of me.. I mean after all my son is just that MY son and MY responsibility, and I'm happy my mom is getting to go. All of her kids are grown and I still get out more than she does.. even if it's just to school for 6 hours,

I'm just so angry that she expects me to babysit for my sister... I didn't have her kids, I love them like they're mine, but if they were mine I would be fine with staying home with them... I understand my sister is a SAHM and doesn't get too much time out.. but they're NOT  MY KIDS

Quoting hottmomma05:

Your not wrong at all, sounds like the only reason she is going is to get away from her kids and drink, not celebrate the happy occasion with your cousin like you want to do.  And I see no reason why your family should feel you are obligated to do a damn thing for them, since it sounds like they don't do much for you.