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UUUGGGGHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Help

Posted by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 3:03 AM
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I work at a casino,in the "money room".We all have "set" schedules.You know same days off/same time clock in/clock out...etc. Anywho,I work with an older lady by the name of Betty.We have both worked in the same casino for basically the same amount of time....in other words,no priveleges because of antiquity.We are the lucky group because our supervisor doesn't mind if we switch days and/or "windows" (as in teller at a bank) because we need a certain day off or something.

So far, so good...right?! Well a couple of months ago Betty needed one of my days off and asked me to switch.There would not have been a problem,except it was my older baby's birthday.I apologized to "Miss B" (her nickname) and explained that I could NOT because we already had my son's day planned.And it was real important to him....we let him chose what we were going to do/where we were going to do it. She said that's ok,I understand...and then proceeded to be EXTREMELY MAD at me for the last six months because I wouldn't let her have that day so she could watch her grandbbaby.

Am I the only one seeing a problem with this?I always switch days with both of my co-workers,and the ONE time that I have to say no she throws a TEMPER TANTRUM ?! Sorry so long,just wanted some different opinions.

by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 3:03 AM
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susans_world
by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 3:06 AM

Tell Miss B to grow up and realize the world doesn't revolve around her.

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SheilaAz
by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 3:07 AM

I worked for a casino too, and you're lucky your boss lets you switch days/ shifts. If you've tried talking to Miss B about the temper, then just talk to your lead, or Sup. Nothing else you could do. (my point of view) Good luck.



Sheila

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allensavannahs
by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 3:11 AM

she is still steamed about something that happened 6 months ago!!!??? and you said no because of YOUR child was having a birthday???? jeeze sounds like a winner!!! i wonder if there is an operation that removes proverbial sticks from the anus.....

good luck with her, sorry your work enviroment  has to suck ass so much

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brandyblx
by Platinum Member on Dec. 17, 2008 at 3:20 AM

Tell me about it...there is only 3 people per shift. And neither Sun (other co-worker)or I even knew she was "slightly irratated"(her words) until she decided to not"keep it bottled up" and told our supervisor why she was/is pissed!! I STILL think that MY SON'S birthday is more important than her watching her grandbaby!!

Quoting allensavannahs:

she is still steamed about something that happened 6 months ago!!!??? and you said no because of YOUR child was having a birthday???? jeeze sounds like a winner!!! i wonder if there is an operation that removes proverbial sticks from the anus.....

good luck with her, sorry your work enviroment  has to suck ass so much


mircopreemiemom
by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 3:20 AM

I have worked with people like that in the past. Worked around them and when I could not they didn't speak to me or take breaks with me anymore. I just looked at it like this: they are supposed to be grown and i have helped them  and they no longer appreciate me for one time I have made plans for that day then foohy on them.

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brandyblx
by Platinum Member on Dec. 17, 2008 at 3:37 AM

bump,bump,bump

strongmom40
by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 5:06 AM


Quoting brandyblx:

Tell me about it...there is only 3 people per shift. And neither Sun (other co-worker)or I even knew she was "slightly irratated"(her words) until she decided to not"keep it bottled up" and told our supervisor why she was/is pissed!! I STILL think that MY SON'S birthday is more important than her watching her grandbaby!!

Anything you might have had planned in advance on your day off is important & why you can not switch a shift for any reason is none of her business. The switching of shifts is a perk, an extra to be able to even ask someone. There is no policy stating that the request to switch shifts has to be agreed upon. The scheduled employee off can say no just a well as say yes.

Of course your son's birthday is an important event & you don't owe her an explaination & there is no need to compare whether or not it was more important than her plans. It was your day off to make prearranged plans before hand, people DO, do that on occasion. If she has a grand-baby then at some point she had a child celebrating birthdays as well, as a woman she should have understood you had major important plans.

The holding a grudge for six months over something as such is some kind of red flag for some sort of mental off balance on her part IMO. That kind of reaction & for a 1/2 of a calendar year sounds toxic. I would just have short necessary words on a professional level that need to be said in reference to work related discussion & be done with her. Don't talk about this issue anymore at work with anyone & fuel the fire of her obvious abnormal reaction to such a small thing that happened a 1/2 of a year ago. Jeez........She asked you a yes or no question & you said one of two answers, no.

I have learned that at work there will be times that you work with negative toxic people. You can't let them infuse their negative views on your work day or you will just become miserable. Those are the type of people that are only spoken to when necessary. That is about all you can do with those types of people at work. Work isn't a popularity contest or a we should be friends just because we work together situation. I might not like ya enough to be your friend, but I have the social skills to tolerate you in the work place.

Let it roll off your back & don't worry about her lack of coping skills with being told no to a shift change. Most especially don't get hung up in her toxic net about something so trivial that she can't process for whatever reason that happened 6 months ago. THAT is her unhealthy problem to figure out. I work in a casino too. They are just as much a Payton Place as working in hotels if you let all the BS gossip get to you.

I'd be glad if I were you that she told the manager about her *problem* thus admitting to her abnormal LONG reaction to *it*. LOL. Our human resource office has a list of help lines for all sorts of things we may encounter at work or in our personal life. *If* Miss B continues to carry malice about this specific issue in the work place, you might want to suggest to your manager that he/she have a talk with ole Miss B & remind Miss B that HR might have a # for a help line for off balance mental or abnormal emotional problems & she just might want to look into getting some help with her admitted & obvious lack of skill with conflict resolution techniques. Hearing that from management might help her find a solution to her *problem* & it ought to for sure put her on alert that her toxic attitude at work is not professional or acceptable behavior that will be tolerated by management. Use your manager & the resources available through the HR department, that is what they are in place for, to be used when necessary. Good luck .

143myboys9496
by Gold Member on Dec. 17, 2008 at 5:09 AM

Ditto.

Quoting susans_world:

Tell Miss B to grow up and realize the world doesn't revolve around her.


brandyblx
by Platinum Member on Dec. 17, 2008 at 7:12 AM

bump

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