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What should we do?

Posted by on Jan. 27, 2009 at 1:47 PM
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Here's the situation: I have issues with my MIL. She's controlling, rude, and unhappy. She's also not a very good parent. My 16 year old BIL is failing a couple of classes. One of which is drivers ed. BIL was held back in 1st grade because he wasn't socially ready to move on, so he's already a year behind where he should be. MIL refuses to help him with his work so that he can catch up. She's horribly impatient with him, and that just makes him feel worse. He learns differently from other kids (he's not slow or anything, he's just different), so it takes him a bit to catch on to things. DH was over there a couple weeks ago (maybe a month ago), and they spent 3 hours going over his drivers ed stuff, and got all of his work done. But he's still failing other classes. DH is really concerned that BIL won't graduate from high school, and so am I. He has no support from MIL in ANY way. She refuses to buy him clothes that he likes (he's kinda into the goth stuff), she's rude and demeaning to him.

We've really wanted BIL to come live with us for a while, but we don't know how to do it. He's going to be 17 in June, and I'm really concerned that if we wait until he's 18 to have him come live with us, it'll be too late. I don't want his family to hate me even more than they already do, but his mom doesn't have his best interests at heart. What should we do? He needs to graduate from high school, but that might not happen living at home. I know that he can be emancipated, but isn't there an easier way? We're getting ready to move, so we could find a place that has enough room for all of us. Please help us out!

by on Jan. 27, 2009 at 1:47 PM
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spicymama.sc
by on Jan. 27, 2009 at 2:00 PM

wow...do u think that ur ready to take on that responsibility

rockinmomto2
by on Jan. 27, 2009 at 2:07 PM

Yes. Totally. I'm a SAHM already, so I'd be here to deal with him. Plus he's a really REALLY great kid. I just want to help him suceed, you know? I feel like where he's at he won't be able to become the person that he wants.

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wow...do u think that ur ready to take on that responsibility


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spicymama.sc
by on Jan. 28, 2009 at 11:00 AM

i can understand that... may God bless u for ur kindness, and guide u thru this trial time. i wish u the best :)



Quoting rockinmomto2:

Yes. Totally. I'm a SAHM already, so I'd be here to deal with him. Plus he's a really REALLY great kid. I just want to help him suceed, you know? I feel like where he's at he won't be able to become the person that he wants.

Quoting spicymama.sc:

wow...do u think that ur ready to take on that responsibility



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