So, I've noticed there are a number of mamas here who have miscarried babies. I've miscarried five. I've named each one. It has helped us realize we have our angels in heaven, looking out over us, and whom we are looking forward to meeting in heaven one day....
Have you named your miscarried babies? If so, what did you name them and why?
Mine are:
Chris/Kristin (miscarried on Christmas day--not sure if boy or girl but wanted to name the baby in honor of Christ)
Gabriel
Joseph Moses (We had decided to name the baby Joseph and my little one, about 3 at the time wanted us to name the baby Moses, after, you know, the REAL Moses... so we humored her and gave Joseph that middle name :))
Catherine
Elizabeth.
I've had 1 miscarriage, and no, I didn't name it. The doctors said that although I was told I was 5months along, the baby probably died around 6-8wks, so small I didn't feel a thing. no cramping nothing. I really think it depends on how much that person/couple wanted that baby. I personally didn't want anymore kids, was just divorced, and had just recently figured out that I was pregnant when I miscarried, so it wasn't really too bad. I know that makes me sound like a horrible person, but at that time in my life a baby was the LAST thing I needed. I am sorry for all of your losses, and commend you for being such a strong person.
Quoting dastle:
I've had 1 miscarriage, and no, I didn't name it. The doctors said that although I was told I was 5months along, the baby probably died around 6-8wks, so small I didn't feel a thing. no cramping nothing. I really think it depends on how much that person/couple wanted that baby. I personally didn't want anymore kids, was just divorced, and had just recently figured out that I was pregnant when I miscarried, so it wasn't really too bad. I know that makes me sound like a horrible person, but at that time in my life a baby was the LAST thing I needed. I am sorry for all of your losses, and commend you for being such a strong person.
Oh that does NOT make you a 'horrible person'!!! The emotions that go along with miscarriages are such a personal thing... That sounds like a really tough time in your life. I hope things are on the up and up now? Thank you for your empathy--and you know, I don't feel particularly strong . You just do what you have to do. :)
God bless!
T.
We didn't name our baby but we think about him all the time. It has been 5 years since he has been gone, the anniversary was on 03/09.
Emotionally, i was too heartbroken to even think about anything, i don't know how to explain it. In the beginning, I felt like if I named him, it would make it too real and i didn't want it to be. =(
If that makes any sense??
Missing you everyday, see you in my dreams.......
My mom named her miscarried son David Jonathan and my youngest son is named David after my younger brother that I will never get to know (and in honor of my mother, may she RIP).
I'm thankful for a hubby that loves me, 4 healthy children, a warm place to sleep and enough food for our meals... God bless America!
yes I named both babies even though I wasnt that far along.
Riah Ann Nelson (12/08/08)
Miccah James Nelson (3/7/09)
It does make it easier having names for them. Some people probably dont understand and that is ok. But my two miscarriages are 2 of the hardest things I have ever had to go thru, and am still going thru.
I felt the exact same way as you. I just couldnt, I needed to not face it, that was the hardest time of my life and I hope I never go through that again.
Quoting fairymom2316:
We didn't name our baby but we think about him all the time. It has been 5 years since he has been gone, the anniversary was on 03/09.
Emotionally, i was too heartbroken to even think about anything, i don't know how to explain it. In the beginning, I felt like if I named him, it would make it too real and i didn't want it to be. =(
If that makes any sense??
I named all of mine...
Baby Rylie lost at 5 weeks October 8, 2004
Baby Taylor lost at 5 weeks July 11, 2006
Kanoa Albert lost at 16 weeks November 8, 2006
Braidon Makaio-Keoni lost at 23 weeks January 18, 2009
We gave Rylie and Taylor nuetral names because we didn't know what gender they were. We knew with Kanoa and Braidon, thats why they have middle names.
I'm a co-sleeping, bottle feeding, disposable diapering Mommy to my miracle baby Madyson (9-16-05) and four Angels... Baby Rylie (10-8-04~ 5 weeks), Baby Taylor (7-11-06~ 5 weeks), Kanoa Albert (11-8-06~ 16 weeks) and Braidon Makaio-Keoni (1-18-09~ 23 weeks).
I know what you mean, it makes it way too real!!
Quoting fairymom2316:We didn't name our baby but we think about him all the time. It has been 5 years since he has been gone, the anniversary was on 03/09.
Emotionally, i was too heartbroken to even think about anything, i don't know how to explain it. In the beginning, I felt like if I named him, it would make it too real and i didn't want it to be. =(
If that makes any sense??
I am a natural, out of hospital birthing, exclusively breast feeding, cloth diapering, baby wearing, co-sleeping, attachment parenting, delayed selective vaccinating, baby food making, stay at home, or bring baby to work, husband loving, animal loving, vegetarian, dog crazy, pit bull owning, dog rescuing, cat rescuing, bisexual, recovering meth addict, pro-choice, pacifist, environmentalist, atheist, 20 year old MOM!!!
I miscarried my daughter* when I was 8 1/2 weeks. I named her Sydney. I actually picked out names the day I found out I was pregnant. If she would have been a boy, he would have been Ceejay.
*I don't actually know if she was a she, but I have a gut feeling she would have been a she.
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