my daughters father wants us back together , but i dont think i do (piog)*update in red*

[dearprudence90]

Ok so we ended it because i caught him kissing another girl, he swears nothing more happened. Can't  say i fully believe him, but now he keeps sending me messages on myspace begging for forgiveness, and how much he loves Harper and I, and wants to be a family again. I moved back in with my parents the day after this happened. So hes been stuck in our two bedroom rented house alone other then when DD is with him. 

I told him I am unsure, I am enjoying being single, i mean i am not interested in anyone else. I just like my time alone, I know that sound weird but him and I have been together since we were 14 and 15, we just broke up on new years after iu caught him, thats right his first  kiss of the new year was with someone else. 

I love him, i want to be back with him. But I honestly am lost on which way to go about this. I just keep responding with I need more time. I am now 19 and hes 20.

 

Eventually i am going to have to give him an answer, 

I need some advice... I know this may get ugly but i am taking my chance  

 

*Update*

Well I went to my gyn today... found out i am  preggo.... I am getting a ultrasound next week to check but Me and my daughters father fooled around on my birthday/valentines day, so now I have to call him and tell him. I dont know how I will tell him, ughh. that would make me like what 2 or 2 1/2 months preggo

I guess it would be best for him and I to get back together now 

[Chey_s_Mommy]

I'd say give him a second chance.. Don't move in right away. Go on a couple of dates and take it from there.

[dearprudence90]

that sound like it may work

I am just so lost on what to do hes the only guy i have ever been with right down to the first kiss

Quoting Chey_s_Mommy:

I'd say give him a second chance.. Don't move in right away. Go on a couple of dates and take it from there.

[Young_Mommy89]

My ex never cheated (he wouldnt even look at another woman) but I left him end of last year & I still love him. We were together since I was 16 (I'm 19 now) & he was 21 (23 now).  We had a lot of problems mostly him not wanting to grow up. He wants to be back together & so do I but I just dont know if I can trust him to be what we were in the beginning. SO I havent taken him back. i say follow your heart if you believe he will do it again, don't do it.

[bubbles4207]

If you love him, and wont to work it out.
give him a second chance, I wouldnt move back in with him yet,
I would take it slow, you guys go on a couple dates, and do a couple family dates and see how things goes. He may realize what he done, and  knows what he had, and knows now he wouldnt do anything like that again. Sometimes it takes someone to leave before they realize what they have. Maybe hes truely sorry, and wonts to be a family again. I'd say everyone deserves at least 1 2nd chance. if they mess up again, its not worth it your still pretty young. But you have to also think you have a baby by him and its always best if families can stay together.
GOOD luck momma!

 

 

[MamaHardy2008]

i agree with the other moms, i would try to go on a few dates and see how things work. i would wait a while to move in though..

[dearprudence90]

Our wedding date was for june 30th....

he wants to go right back to that 

[dearprudence90]

ya

Quoting bubbles4207:

If you love him, and wont to work it out.
give him a second chance, I wouldnt move back in with him yet,
I would take it slow, you guys go on a couple dates, and do a couple family dates and see how things goes. He may realize what he done, and  knows what he had, and knows now he wouldnt do anything like that again. Sometimes it takes someone to leave before they realize what they have. Maybe hes truely sorry, and wonts to be a family again. I'd say everyone deserves at least 1 2nd chance. if they mess up again, its not worth it your still pretty young. But you have to also think you have a baby by him and its always best if families can stay together.
GOOD luck momma!

 

 

[danarae1976]

I say tell him that you want to start dating again and go from there. 

I wouldn't pick up right where you left off ......... that means NO SEX !!    Sex makes every more complicated. 

[dearprudence90]

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[MissAndrea125]

This is one of the VERY FEW times I will ever suggest someone give a second chance. I'm usually the bad guy that says "Once a cheater, always a cheater" But it sounds like he might know that the grass is greener with you and Harper. Especially now that you have a new one on the way (congrats btw!) But let this be his ONE lesson!! Make it crystal clear that if it EVER happens again, you will be gone, period. Otherwise, he will think it is okay and it could happen on down the road!! GOOD LUCK!! ♥