As some of you know My mom and I had a huge fight last week because she is always lying about drinking and makes me feel bad about myself (says things like you are fat... are you pregnant.... or your hair is too dark... you look like Elvira) so anyways.... I am not mean and I won't keep my kids from her. She used me as a pawn with my grandparents and I always resented her for it... and my kids love my parents...
I invited them to see Liam have his Easter Egg hunt on Sunday. DH and I had planned on having it after church so early afternoon... so I told them I would make brunch. After they spend an hour, DH and I planned on taking the kids in a long drive to the waterfalls.
Well NOW my inlaws have decided to come up here to their condo all next week. It's a nice gesture... FIL is going to work so DH can have 5 days in a row off since he worked 7 days a week for 4 months ... and of course they want to see the kids on Easter, too... BUT MIL can't come to my house because her asthma is really bad and DH's cats will set it off.... so they want to take us to brunch... They have plans in the evening with an old friend....bbut my parents and my in-laws refuse to be in the same room for ANY length of time. I mean... it gets ugly... plus, my dad is afraid of crowds and in my entire life he has never gone to a brunch...
DO which set to I brush off... how how can I work this? If I change things up on my mom, she will go off the deep end... which in the past has led to her calling CPS, the IRS, the Cops, you name it... on DH and I and while her complaints are without merit, it's still a hassle... while my in-laws and I don't get along, they are good to me, DH, and the kids... in fact, they just gave me $6000 down on my new car... so strings...
HELP!!!
I'd do two different brunches or a brunch and a lunch. I'm not sure how exactly I'd fit it all in as I'd have to be the one working the schedule but I'm sure I could do it since I have before. Shifting family around is fun huh?
Is it possible to have an early brunch with your mom (don't eat too much) and a later lunch with the in-laws? Then you won't have to step on any toes.
Quoting JulyBabies:
Is it possible to have an early brunch with your mom (don't eat too much) and a later lunch with the in-laws? Then you won't have to step on any toes.
I wold try to do this if possible.
Tell them, "This is where the Easter egg hunt is going to be, this is going to be where we are having brunch, and this is who's going to be there. You can either show up, be with family and enjoy the day or not. It's up to you."
You shouldn't have to take one side or the other. Personally, I think that they should suck it up and just be there for the kids. It's unfair for them to put you in a position like this.
See if you can do Easter Dinner w/ your inlaws? or do something on Saturday with them? I don't know good luck.
I'm sorry for you. But, if you put aside all personalities and go with what another poster mentioned, sticking with the original plans and invitation, and then adding to it, it might work.
What about brunch with parents, dessert/appetizers with in-laws in the afternoon, before they go to dinner. Not to big to spoil their dinner plans, but a nice cap to your brunch!
Quoting momo3lilladies:
If I read this right it sounds like you had invited your parents to brunch first. So if it were me that's who I'd do it with. Then try to work in time for hubby's family around that. That's just what I would do.
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