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Posted by on Apr. 8, 2009 at 4:06 PM
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My daughter is two 1/2 years old and barely knows her father.  But yet he thinks he should be able to say what goes one with her.  He first walked out on her when she was 3 weeks old and didnt see her again until end of Jan 2007.  All of 2007 he seen her maybe 9 times if that.  He has only bought her a few and i mean few things her whole life.  May of last year he moved up here to be so called with his daughter (we are not together and wasnt then either)  He stayed solid in her life until end of August then didnt see her again until her birthday which is Oct. 4 then not until Thanksgiving.  He came one time in December then disappeared again.  I recently got engaged and not suddenly he wants to play daddy again. SO i told him that if he is gonna see her again he needs to make sure its constant no more in and out-it will confuse her. He then tells me that since i am with someone why does it matter if he stays in her life cause she will have a man constant in her life.  He does not pay child support and always says he has too many bills and doesnt have money.  But yet he takes trips to savannah and jacksonville fl.  Has money for trips to daytona. I am so tired of his crap but i dont know if i should tell him either your in or not.  I just want to do whats right for my daughter. And advice would be helpful and appreciated.

***We were never married and I am going for CHild support as we speak****

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gobimom
by on Apr. 8, 2009 at 4:08 PM

First of all go to court and get child support!  Why are you letting him off so easy - he is the dad.  If you don't need the money to raise her then put it in a bank account for her college fund.  I would also make him go to court and get a visitation schedule. 

lauren8892
by on Apr. 8, 2009 at 4:09 PM

Not sure if I could help but here's a BUMP!

mama_beck
by on Apr. 8, 2009 at 4:13 PM

I would get a custody order.. (actually, i did) and if he wants to play the "there's another man as father" game... let him and then have a child support order too. with my custody i have full physical and legal, so he really can't be involved in any of the decisions for the girls... it works for me..

mamaof376
by on Apr. 8, 2009 at 4:17 PM

I am going through the process to get child supprt

amc103
by on Apr. 8, 2009 at 4:21 PM

 I like the idea of getting a court order for him to pay child support-if he can take trips, there's money from somewhere, and his top priority should be his child. Next thing I can tell you is that it will be better for your daughter in the long run if he is not around. If he is always going to be in and out, that will hurt her more, espshally as she gets older. Once she gets older, she might start to wonder, "whats wrong with me that daddy never sticks around?" Coming from a divorced family, I know. I know it sucks, and its tough, but in the long run, it will be better. And, if you're engaged, then she WILL get to see what a real man is like! Heres a bump for ya!bump

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