how to get him to understand

[rowansmum]

Ok may be TMI for some but I'm fairly pregnant, I work 4 days a week and it takes me away from home a fair bit.  I tend to have to stay at my parents at least 1 or 2 nights a week to save on gas since I work in a different town than the one we live in.  It seems to be a pattern in my pregnancies that I don't want sex...ever and since I'm now in my last trimester I'm tired most of the time too.  On my days off I get to try to cram all my housework into 2 days while chasing a toddler,  being sick (yes I still get sick lol) and this nasty cold that he gave me and being tired from like noon on.  All this leaves me with no energy for sex except for like once a week on a day that we both usually have off.  How do I explain to him that the lack of sex isn't about him?  He's taking it so personally and I know,  he's a guy and they all will but I do show affection and whatnot but sex is just too much at the end of the day

[rowansmum]

bump,  nobody?

[BrownEyedGirl86]

have you tried to explain to him that everything you do durning the day,  or maybe tell him if the 2 days you don't have work you didn't have to do the house work((he would do it)) and you would just have to watch your toddler, then maybe that would give you those 2 nights to have sex with him and you would get to rest during the day, and he would get what he wanted to at night?

[Kir]

I think the best way you could get him to understand would be to strap a sandbag to his back for a day and see if he feels like doing it.

[CosmicPossum]

If you have explianed all these things to him and he still thinks he should have sex more than once a week (and he should be happy he gets that in your last trimester) then tell him to stop acting like one of the kids cause this isn't all about him.  You have one baby and another on the way you don't need baby number three in the form of a grown man.  Has he ever thought of trying to get you in the mood by giving you a break, or running you a hot soaking tub bath...I bet not!

[CosmicPossum]

OH and remind him taht all this sex he wants is what got you in this condition in the first place!

[rowansmum]

I have explained what I do during the day,  he called last night when I went out for groceries and asked if I was just about done cuz Rowan was being a pain lol. His theory is that he cooks and pays most of the bills he shouldn't have to do anything else.  He's quite hung up on the thought that since some of the people he knows wives/gf's were uber horned up while pregnant that all of us are like that.  I suppose it doesn't help that the only time we really get to talk is bedtime,  maybe I'll try talking to him not at bedtime.   I like the sandbag idea!!!!