If you were single, would you marry a man who had children?
This is a spinoff of one of my posts where the topic starting being discussed. I found it really interesting and wanted to do a poll.
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Same here, How could I ask someone to love/accept my child if I will not theirs.
Quoting StefNBecca:
I answered yes because I am a single mother and always have been so in this case the man would have to accept my child in order to marry me so why would I not want to accept his....I could love children that aren't mine....I already do.....I have 3 neices and I love them unconditionally!
Quoting Twizlr:
Yes if he was a responible Dad to his children. I would have to ask myself these questions: How could I bring a man into my children's life that has his own children and isn't capable of being a Dad to them? If he treats his own kids like that how is he going to treat my kids? What if we decided to have a kid together? Is it fair that my kids have this man as a father figure and his own children don't?
That is a very insightful answer. My SO and his serious GF just broke up, but before they did she would talk about having kids. Are you kidding me? In the 8 months they were together he only saw his kids 3 times and never for more than a few hours. I had to wonder what she was thinking. At least when he and I had kids together he seemed commited to being a father. She had to know he was dead beat.
No. And not b/c I think it's stupid or w/ever. I just seen first hand how step kids treat their step mother. My brothers n sister are from my father's previous marriage, and although my mother raised them as though they were her own...they treat her like trash. And after seeing that for the last 28 yrs..I definitely would not marry a man with kids. I won't ever get married or have anything serious, if I were to become single, it would be a double standard & I dnt think it would be fair..not only to my children but to another man as well.
Im going to marry my finace next month.... We got together, and hes got 3 boys, 5,5, and 4.
Hes a great dad, he goes to work EVERYDAY. He provides for us, and is a GREAT father, we had a daughter together in December of 07, and hes still the best father and finace, soon to be hubby that I could ever ask for!
So, I answered yes, if he was responsible enough. And by the way, it doesnt hurt that we are TOTALLY in love.
Yes. If he was a responsible father to those children..
If he wasnt... what would he do about "our future children?"
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Quoting FiveJobWonder:
Quoting Twizlr:
Yes if he was a responible Dad to his children. I would have to ask myself these questions: How could I bring a man into my children's life that has his own children and isn't capable of being a Dad to them? If he treats his own kids like that how is he going to treat my kids? What if we decided to have a kid together? Is it fair that my kids have this man as a father figure and his own children don't?
That is a very insightful answer. My SO and his serious GF just broke up, but before they did she would talk about having kids. Are you kidding me? In the 8 months they were together he only saw his kids 3 times and never for more than a few hours. I had to wonder what she was thinking. At least when he and I had kids together he seemed commited to being a father. She had to know he was dead beat.
My youngest's father seemed like he was the responible type too. He would get mad at my ex hubby for not coming around or paying cs just as much as I did. Now what do you know? He hasn't seen our son in exactly 1 year, though I will give him this, for part of that time he was in Iraq, but he has been home for roughly 3 months now and was home in Dec when we split up and hasn't even tried to see him since then. He hasn't paid a dime in support since Dec either.(Army is not being helpful with this either even though he had been claiming him for his BAH). Just goes to show you never really know someone completely.
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on May. 16, 2009 at 4:17 PM