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I think my niece is in trouble??

Posted by on Jun. 9, 2009 at 8:55 AM
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My niece is 9 years old and she has some issue with behavior.  She is currently diagnosed as Oppositional Defiant. Basically she cant handle authority. Anyway over the last few weeks she has been doing things that are a little strange, she is sneaking food at all hours of the night regardless of how much she eats at meal time, her mom has tried talking to her about it but it seems to make the situation worse.  At this point the child only has a bed and clothes in her room and my sister is at her wits end.  Last night things escalated a bit seems my 14 year old niece walked in to check on her sister and found her chewing on the ball of her foot and she had it bleeding!! My sister put socks and shoes on her feet and gloves on her hands ( she also chews her finger nails until they bleed) 20 minutes later she was chewing on her arm. Her behavior therapist says its all normal but to me it seems a little extreme. Does anyone have any experience or advice? She can't seem to get anyone to take the situation serious they all pass it off as shes 9 she wants attention but we are all afraid she is really going to hurt herself.

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FaithandHarmony
by on Jun. 9, 2009 at 9:02 AM

I would get another opinion. My cousin was diagnosed with the same disorder and after many opinions and MANY dr's, phycoligist, councellers and being put in a instatution (court ordered because he was always breaking the law) he was re-diagnosed with bi-pollar and skisophrania (sp?). I dont know any kids that go to that extreme to get attention unless they have some serious mental issues...good luck

JaymeAnn2255
by on Jun. 9, 2009 at 9:08 AM

I would def say get another opinion....my son (4 yr old) is bipolar and he does some of the same stuff (biting-chewing his self until he bleeds, rubbing his arms, legs, head, etc of textured walls until bleeding) I'd say just get another opinion and see if maybe there is something to do to help her....Good Luck to you and your Sister!!!  It is hard...I know it is...but hang in there....

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laranadtony
by Emerald Member on Jun. 9, 2009 at 11:47 AM

Those sound like oral fixations,arm chewing and fingernail chewing.My son will bite holes in his arms if we don't do something.Sometimes he has to chew on a pacifier.

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mitch576
by on Jun. 9, 2009 at 11:49 AM

i have a child with adhd, pdd,nos { high functioning autism} and oppositional defiant disorder.

NOTHING  of what you mentioned...does he do.

he is a nail biter... but he doesn't hurt himself.

he certainly would not chew on himself to the point of bleeding.

he basically...tries to argue with any request made... or i should say he use to "try"

i don't fold though. he is defiant and oppositional? oh well... i bet i can be more defiant and oppositional.

anyway... not what you are describing. you are describing something like o.c.d... or hyper grooming which is not the same thing at all.

kids with o.d.d....don't do the things you describe.

sorry momma... good luck.




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LWRIGHT13
by on Jun. 9, 2009 at 12:20 PM

Thanks for the replies I will forward all these to my sister and hopefully she can get a second opinion before the little one gets hurt. :(

mitch576
by on Jun. 9, 2009 at 12:24 PM

suggest a larger children's hopsital... a "teaching hospital" preferably, they are the best.

explain to her that she will have to request the "neurodevelopmental clinic"

the child will see several specialists there... will recieve a full evaluation.

dr.s like.. but not limited too....

a developmental pediatrician, neuropsychologist,  occupational therapist { test for sensory dysfunction}

they will each see the child seperately, then meet with mom as a team to discuss their findings.

it can be a long process... but it is neccessary to get the whole picture.

good luck hon, i know it has already been a long 9 years.

Quoting LWRIGHT13:

Thanks for the replies I will forward all these to my sister and hopefully she can get a second opinion before the little one gets hurt. :(





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MyStErIoUsWiFe
by on Jun. 9, 2009 at 12:28 PM

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