Why is this bothering me?

[YorkEricaL]

Okay, so for as long as I can remeber I have wanted to go shark diving. Like where you go in the cage..I know that might sound weird, buts its just something I have ALWAYS wanted to do. Well my Grandpa knows that and this morning he calls me and told me that next year he will pay for him, my grandma, daughter and I to go to Hawaii! Where I can cage dive! ( obviously my grandparents and daughter wont be diving with me lol! ) Im so excited! I told my husband about it today when he came home for lunch and that I want him to go too. SInce my Grandpa is being SOO generous and paying for my daughter and I we would only have to pay for 1 airfare, and obviously our food and other expenses, but that would deffinitly make it afforadable for us all to go! Then tonight when he got home from work he says "I don't want to go to Hawaii" I asked him why and he said "because I dont want too, why? Does that make you mad or something?" No it doesnt make me mad..but it kind of hurts my feelings. We have the money for this trip, he has the leave saved up ( he is in the Army ) and with my Grandparents there with us we would have someone to watch our daughter for us a few nights so we could do somethings together, just the 2 of us. His only explanation is that he just doesn't want to go.

Should this hurt my feelings or am I just being too sensitive?

 

 

[mommytobe2290]

well idk, but i would definately be hurt

[mamamissy23]

girl!!! first you are crazy for wanting to do that lol...next tell your hubby to grow the hell up and go on a family vaca!!! He seems like he needs one anyways!

[AmoMisBebes]

Hell yea I would be upset.  Sounds like there is something deeper going on here.  Maybe he feels bad cuz your grandpa is paying for your and your lil one and feels that should be his job?   

[mechi2105]

Maybe and this is just maybe don't ask him about for a few days and see if he approaches you with the situation. If he goes more that a week and he doesn't mention it, then you bring it up again but don't make a big deal about it. You don't know if he was planning his own family trip with you guys and this may have put a damper on his plans. Just ask him without demanding why he doesn't want to go. Maybe he feels like your grandparents don't want HIM to come along. Or maybe he feels like he wanted to make your dream come true himself. I know it's a lot of maybes I just wanted to help. You never know how he feels. Anyhow good luck with this and I truly hope that you get you wish granted.

[2gud2btrue]

i wouldnt be that upset.  just cuz...we'd be going without him.  so that's his loss

[theRonimal]

Well, before you get too hurt over it, I would examine the possibility that there is another reason that he is hiding. Maybe he was secretly planning to take you shark diving, and is sad that your grandfather beat him to it?

[FoxyLady42]

Well, yep I would be hurt. Tell him OKAY, you can stay home then and also take care of our daughter while I am on Vacation!!!! Then go Girl and have a Hell of a Good time. Take lots of pics of the Sharks too! LOL.......I Bet he will be on the next plane out with your daughter too! hehe

[YorkEricaL]

Quoting AmoMisBebes:

Hell yea I would be upset.  Sounds like there is something deeper going on here.  Maybe he feels bad cuz your grandpa is paying for your and your lil one and feels that should be his job?  

 

His parents almost always vacation seperately and it bugs me! They have a very disfunctional relationship and I dont want to end up like them! My husband is going to Phoenix without us next month..and when we went to California last year for a wedding I had to BEG him to stop in San Francisco even though we were driving though anyways..I just dont want to end up like my in-laws : (

[YorkEricaL]

Quoting 2gud2btrue:

i wouldnt be that upset.  just cuz...we'd be going without him.  so that's his loss

Oh, I definitly plan on going! Lol I am not going to pass up doing something that I have always wanted to do just because he doesnt want too. I just want him to want to go too..you know?

[2gud2btrue]

i think how you just put it is exactly how i'd put it to him.  just that are happy to be going and would like him to share in that happiness

Quoting YorkEricaL:

 

Quoting 2gud2btrue:

i wouldnt be that upset.  just cuz...we'd be going without him.  so that's his loss

Oh, I definitly plan on going! Lol I am not going to pass up doing something that I have always wanted to do just because he doesnt want too. I just want him to want to go too..you know?