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2 Abortion And Now A Miscarriage. . .
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on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:00 PM
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To make a long story short. . . My step sister has aborted two pregnancies. She got earlier this year by her current boyfriend and has decided to keep it. Well, she lost the pregnancy almost a week ago. Everyone in our family is telling us not to feel sorry for her or to even mention what happened. When she first broke the news her mom told her that is what she getl. Karma or something. That she got rid of her first two and now that she actually wanted one it was taken away. Anyway, I feel really sorry for her. I want to do something nice for her but I don't know what. I don't even know what to say and I don't want to make my step mom or my dad mad for not just ignoring it like they expect us all to do. I feel that she needs some support and she has none, at least from our family.
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- by on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:02 PM
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What she needs now is support from someone. Just words of kindness and a shoulder to cry on. And shame on your parents for being such assholes!
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- by on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:02 PM
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Don't be close-minded like the others. Give her support b/c she probably needs it. And of course she didn't deserve it.
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- by on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:03 PM
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Well to be honest if my family member had done the same. I probably would react the same .
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- by on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:04 PM
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She lost a child that she wanted. How could you not feel bad for her? Yeah, IMO she was wrong for getting the abortions, BUT.. she didnt deserve to lose this baby.
Lovin Sr. Airman Walker && Adoring Mother To Elijah <3
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- by on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:05 PM
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why dont you have a spa day either go to a spa or but somethings and do one at home. i guess what i mean to say is have a girls days. do spa out for dinner or coffee. watch a movie that sort of thing. and just tell her how you feel.
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- by on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:06 PM
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I am sorry she has such a disgusting, cold hearted family. All you can do is be supportive, and tell her how sorry you are. She can try again for a child.
Kairi
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- by on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:06 PM
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Go get manicures and then go somewhere and have a nice lunch....and don't forget a nice card for her...it's a simple gesture, but meaningful.
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- by on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:06 PM
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I think it is disgusting your family and anyone else would say she deserves it. Yeah like everyone is so perfect. Get your head out of your ass and find some compassion. If she is sad then be there for her because that is the right thing to do. To let some one suffer because you feel the "deserve" it for choice they made is insensitive and for lack of better words being an asshole.
"Abandoning the children in the forest to feed ourselves/ We will all stay more healthy if we do not distribute wealth/ Aimed friendly fire/ There is only greed living the life that we desire/ As we set sail across the raging sea/ Unconquerable by reality....." Anti-Flag.
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- by on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:07 PM
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Quoting KairisMama:
I am sorry she has such a disgusting, cold hearted family. All you can do is be supportive, and tell her how sorry you are. She can try again for a child.
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- by on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:07 PM
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Really? Her mom said something along the same lines when I mentioned it isn't right to treat her this way but she just kept going on and on how it wasn't fair what she did to her first two grandchildren and that she got what was coming to her because she ruined her insides.
Quoting Ann7227:
Well to be honest if member had done the same. I probably would react the same .
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