2 Abortion And Now A Miscarriage. . .

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  • amourepropre
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:09 PM

• That is a great idea! Thanks.
  

  Quoting eddysmommy:
  
  

  why dont you have a day either go to a spa or but somethings and do one at home. i guess what i mean to say is have a girls days. do spa out for dinner or coffee. watch a movie  that sort of thing. and just tell her how you feel.
  

  
  

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  • AlinaRazielsMom
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:10 PM
• Biologically when you abort a child you've screwed your womb to pieces. She may loose her next few babies. This is sad and a hard thing for a mommy. Yes, she did something stupid - use protection for God's sake people!! Yes, she did another something stupid in letting those precious babies go.
  
  Is she being punished? Is this karma? No. this is her body not being ready to carry a baby because she has put it through so much trauma.
  
  Encourage her. She needs support right now. She was trying to do the right thing this time and bring this little baby into the world, setting aside the "inconvenience" of pregnancy.
  
  She knows all the mean things that everyone is saying. She's probably thinking them too. The last thing she needs is her family to lash out at her in hate and anger.
  
  I don't care what your parents say or what your family thinks. Your sister is mourning the death of her child. If this child was 3 years old when he/she died, your family would mourn with her. You need to mourn with her and support her and be there to cry on. It doesn't matter why the baby died. Her baby died. Focus on that factor and yes - tell your mean ol family to take a hike with their judgments and anger and stick up for your sister. She was stupid, yes. She'll figure that out (or has already) without anyone telling her that. But now she needs you.

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  • KairisMama
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:10 PM

• She didn't ruin her insides. I know 2 women who have aborted and went on to have lots of kids later in life (no complications). Her mother is an ignorant ass.
  

  Quoting amourepropre:
  
  

  Really? Her mom said something along the same lines when I mentioned it isn't right to treat her this way but she just kept going on and on how it wasn't fair what she did to her first two grandchildren and that she got what was coming to her because she ruined her insides.

  Quoting Ann7227:
  
  

  Well to be honest if member had done the same. I probably would react the same .

   

  
  

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  • amourepropre
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:11 PM

• Excuse me? No need to be such a bitch. I said I felt sorry for her and I'm asking what I should say or do for her! She should feel lucky that I am willing to let the past stay in the past and move forward so I can give her some support. This is the same woman who told me it was my fault my son is autistic.I think it is wrong the way my step mom is acting and how my father is going along with it. I am NOT insensitive towards her.
  

  Quoting momtoamo:
  
  

  I think it is disgusting your family and anyone else would say she deserves it.  Yeah like everyone is so perfect.  Get your head out of your ass and find some compassion.  If she is sad then be there for her because that is the right thing to do.  To let some one suffer because you feel the "deserve" it for choice they made is insensitive and for lack of better words being an asshole. 

  
  

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  • kjpj-lovecats
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:12 PM

• I am one of them.
  

  Quoting KairisMama:
  
  

  She didn't ruin her insides. I know women who have aborted and went on to have lots of kids later in life. Her mother is an ignorant ass.
  

  Quoting amourepropre:
  
  

  Really? Her mom said something along the same lines when I mentioned it isn't right to treat her this way but she just kept going on and on how it wasn't fair what she did to her first two grandchildren and that she got what was coming to her because she ruined her insides.

  Quoting Ann7227:
  
  

  Well to be honest if member had done the same. I probably would react the same .

   

  
  

  
  

  

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  • Ann7227
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:12 PM

• I'm saying if one of my family members came to me I would not be so sympathetic. But that's just me.
  

  Quoting amourepropre:
  
  

  Really? Her mom said something along the same lines when I mentioned it isn't right to treat her this way but she just kept going on and on how it wasn't fair what she did to her first two grandchildren and that she got what was coming to her because she ruined her insides.
  

  Quoting Ann7227:
  
  

  Well to be honest if member had done the same. I probably would react the same .
  

  
  

  
  

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  • PisceanMom
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:12 PM

• Yeah, honestly, I'd do the same thing.  I might not say she "deserves it" but I definitely wouldn't be sympathetic.

  Quoting Ann7227:
  
  

  Well to be honest if my family member had done the same. I probably would react the same .

   

  

  
  

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  • Gwynyth
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:13 PM

• OP.  You are correct, she really needs some love and support!  She;s lucky to have you to lean on!  Definately do not ignore the situation.  Call her, spend time with her, let her talk and cry  if she  wants.  She probably already feels like she's being punished for the abortions!  You're both on my thoughts and prayers!

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  • 2brats1chkymnky
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:14 PM

• Although I don't always particularly agree with abortions I would still be supportive. She still needs that regardless of the circumstances.
  

  

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  • momtoamo
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:15 PM

• My comments were towards people who felt she deserved it, thought that was pretty obvious.  It was not at you, you said you felt bad, right?
  

  Quoting amourepropre:
  
  

  Excuse me? No need to be such a bitch. I said I felt sorry for her and I'm asking what I should say or do for her! She should feel lucky that I am willing to let the past stay in the past and move forward so I can give her some support. This is the same woman who told me it was my fault my son is autistic.I think it is wrong the way my step mom is acting and how my father is going along with it. I am NOT insensitive towards her.

   

   

  

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