2 Abortion And Now A Miscarriage. . .

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  • amourepropre
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:52 PM

• I understand. My step mom is definitely hurt over the abortions. Oh and this was her third pregnany by a third man.
  

  Quoting Kelli.and.Ellie:
  
  

  i think they are just hurt that she could kill 2 babies and then finally mature up and keep the 3rd one...thats how i feel!! she didnt per say deserve to lose the baby....but i believe in karma, god seen she was killing these children and maybe didnt feel safe with a child in her hands.....to me there is no excuse for an abortion if u are stay wtih the guy and keep getting pregnant by him....not to sound like a bitch but its called birth control 

  
  

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  • Kelli.and.Ellie
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:53 PM

• and if she is anything like my mom, the words are just said out of anger and hurt.....she will come around!
  

  Quoting amourepropre:
  
  

  I understand. My step mom is definitely hurt over the abortions. Oh and this was her third pregnany by a third man.

  Quoting Kelli.and.Ellie:
  
  

  i think they are just hurt that she could kill 2 babies and then finally mature up and keep the 3rd one...thats how i feel!! she didnt per say deserve to lose the baby....but i believe in karma, god seen she was killing these children and maybe didnt feel safe with a child in her hands.....to me there is no excuse for an abortion if u are stay wtih the guy and keep getting pregnant by him....not to sound like a bitch but its called birth control 

   

  
  

   

  
  

  

  
  

   

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  • SpiritFortress
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:58 PM

• So let me get this straight. She killed two of her babies and then got depressed and disappointed because the third one died.....hmmmm Nope, I can't find it in me to feel bad for her. But you obviously care for her and she does need someone to care so my advice would be to just be there for her and listen when she needs an ear. We don't have to like what our family does but they're still our family and we still care about them, usually no matter what. 

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  • ErikaM27
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:58 PM

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  Quoting missbobbie:
  
  

  What she needs now is support from someone. Just words of kindness and a shoulder to cry on. And shame on your parents for being such assholes!

  this,and no one has the right to say she deserved that,my mil said we lost our baby that god had punished us and we deserved it i haven't talked to her in 5 yrs. those words are very hurtful she needs support not put downs
  

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  • hfs1998
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 1:03 PM

• I'm prolife but I think she deserves a little compassion here.  In fact, this may be the moment when she realizes what she did in the past was wrong.  At any rate, a baby died and it would be cruel IMO to withhold compassion from a grieving mother, no matter what her past is. 

  And for the people who think that 2 abortions would screw up her insides, that's not exactly true.  I'm assuming that she had early term abortions which would be similar to a D&C.  Many women have D&Cs when they are experiencing fertility problems as well as following a miscarriage.  Now repeated D&Cs may do some damage, but I don't think 2 qualifies.  As for the people who had abortions and now are experiencing infertility later in life - well, your fertility DOES decline as you age.  My first two children were conceived very quickly - one the first month we were trying, the other when we weren't even trying.  Then it took two years for my third and I had a miscarriage along the way.  I'm older now, its different. 

  OP, I think you are doing the right thing by showing her some kindness.  I wouldn't be surprised if she becomes more prolife because of her experience, I've seen it happen before.  Be available to talk.  Maybe a spa day or go out for a nice lunch.  An inexpensive piece of jewelry with the baby's birthstone on it can mean a lot and are very affordable at places like Walmart.  I got a rosary with my lost baby's (supposed to be) birth month.  Its precious to me and I know it was not too pricey.  You're a good sister, step or otherwise.

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  • ErikaM27
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 1:07 PM

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  Quoting amourepropre:
  
  

  I understand. My step mom is definitely hurt over the abortions. Oh and this was her third pregnany by a third man.

  Quoting Kelli.and.Ellie:
  
  

  i think they are just hurt that she could kill 2 babies and then finally mature up and keep the 3rd one...thats how i feel!! she didnt per say deserve to lose the baby....but i believe in karma, god seen she was killing these children and maybe didnt feel safe with a child in her hands.....to me there is no excuse for an abortion if u are stay wtih the guy and keep getting pregnant by him....not to sound like a bitch but its called birth control 

   

  I'm not trying to be a bitch but if I was your step sister i'd be so hurt that you're telling all her business to all these strangers.if it was the 3rd man or the 100th she's your sister. If you really cared about her you'd be there for her who cares what your parents say it's not their decision. Don't judge her just be her sister.Either support her or don't come on here to bash her. 

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  • Short_n_sass
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 1:09 PM

• Take her out for coffee and just let her talk about it....

   

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  • Kelli.and.Ellie
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 1:10 PM

• i really dont think she was bashing...just stating a fact. her sister shouldnt be ashamed by this because its true....and if she is, well truth hurts sometimes!
  

  Quoting ErikaM27:
  
  

   

  Quoting amourepropre:
  
  

  I understand. My step mom is definitely hurt over the abortions. Oh and this was her third pregnany by a third man.

  Quoting Kelli.and.Ellie:
  
  

  i think they are just hurt that she could kill 2 babies and then finally mature up and keep the 3rd one...thats how i feel!! she didnt per say deserve to lose the baby....but i believe in karma, god seen she was killing these children and maybe didnt feel safe with a child in her hands.....to me there is no excuse for an abortion if u are stay wtih the guy and keep getting pregnant by him....not to sound like a bitch but its called birth control 

   

  I'm not trying to be a bitch but if I was your step sister i'd be so hurt that you're telling all her business to all these strangers.if it was the 3rd man or the 100th she's your sister. If you really cared about her you'd be there for her who cares what your parents say it's not their decision. Don't judge her just be her sister.Either support her or don't come on here to bash her. 

  
  

   

  
  

  

  
  

   

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  • SpiritFortress
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 1:11 PM

• You haven't been on CafeMom long have you? Telling everyone's dirty, nasty life shit is the majority of what goes on here!

  
  

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  Quoting amourepropre:
  
  

  I understand. My step mom is definitely hurt over the abortions. Oh and this was her third pregnany by a third man.

  Quoting Kelli.and.Ellie:
  
  

  i think they are just hurt that she could kill 2 babies and then finally mature up and keep the 3rd one...thats how i feel!! she didnt per say deserve to lose the baby....but i believe in karma, god seen she was killing these children and maybe didnt feel safe with a child in her hands.....to me there is no excuse for an abortion if u are stay wtih the guy and keep getting pregnant by him....not to sound like a bitch but its called birth control 

   

  I'm not trying to be a bitch but if I was your step sister i'd be so hurt that you're telling all her business to all these strangers.if it was the 3rd man or the 100th she's your sister. If you really cared about her you'd be there for her who cares what your parents say it's not their decision. Don't judge her just be her sister.Either support her or don't come on here to bash her. 

  
  

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  • CaydenLogansMa
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 1:12 PM

• um...yeah something about somebody sucking a life out of you with a vacuum can ruin your insides. The people that do abortions are all in it for the money. Maybe Thats why a lot of women that have abortions cant have kids again or if they do, they can be deformed. It is a real surgery. The abortionists just dont always treat it that way. They get paid big bucks for the more that they do. they get in and get out. Your step sister needs love. But maybe she cant have kids because of what she did. Dont sit there and point a finger at her though. She doesnt need that right now.

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