My Fiance hit me in the face last night :*(

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  • ashnevlex
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:14 PM

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  Quoting YoursTruelyXD:
  
  

   He was soooooo drunk last night, that he might have blacked out but still there is no reason to hit anybody.

  If he'll hit you drunk then he'll eventually hit you sober. All abusers apologize at first. Then once they realize that you're weak and will stay there and keep taking it and taking it and not leave or do anything about it, they'll just start blaming you for it, saying it's your own fault, you shouldn't have done xyz because you knew it would piss them off. Leave. Now. Don't stick around like some pp said to see if it gets worse. That's the worst advice I've ever heard.  There's places you can go to temporarily. Hotels, friends houses, family, shelters, a church. Go ANYWHERE.
  

  

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  • girlnterupted
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:14 PM

• If he hit you once he will probably do it again.

  That is all.
  

  
  

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  • Olivia426
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:16 PM

• LEAVE!!!!! I know it doesn't sound that simple.....BUT IT REALLY IS!!!! Someone hits you...you leave...period...end of story! Say goodbye to your life together.....he crossed the line and has demolished anything you shared when he came across your face with a hand! Be strong, be unforgiving.....your son WILL THANK YOU!!!! And YOU will thank yourself when YOU find someone who doesn't need to use violence to express himself!
  

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  • mrsgarthbrooks1
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:16 PM

•  i would go get help foru and ur son

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  • Mom_to_Owen
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:17 PM

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  Quoting YoursTruelyXD:
  
  

   He was soooooo drunk last night, that he might have blacked out but still there is no reason to hit anybody.

  
  So not only is he a woman beater, but he's a stupid drunk too... Scary combo.  I would run, not walk!!!!

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  • retsillacam
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:17 PM

• was he drunk?
  

  Quoting wsv777:
  
  

  How did he not know he hit you in the face??

  
  

  
  

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  • mommy2xp
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:18 PM

• go some place!  if you stay it will only get worse.  call doves or something like that and they will get you out of there tonight.  if you stay it will be easier for him to do it again (because you stayed) and harder for you to leave.
  

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  • Angelicembrace
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:19 PM

• I don't agree with a majority in here..well kind of. I think that if he can hit you once he could hit you again, but it doesn't mean it can't work out..if he's willing to get help and you are too, and he's willing to do AA and such then I think it can get better and he can change--but it takes a lot of work. Not all men who hit woman once continue to do so--it depends on if they feel so bad about it and feel it was so wrong that they seek help. If he refuses help, then that should be your answer. If he doesn't--I'd get out asap--by like others suggesting calling shelters/ect. If he's willing to get help make sure he knows that means him being comitted 100 percent, and that AA needs to be done along with therapy and so forth..even if he doesn't think he needs AA,if he's drinking to a point where he's blacking out and hitting you..that's enough to need to stop drinking.

  
  

  Good luck with everything!
  

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  • smlb4ever
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:19 PM

• Hi I just read your post and I'm so sorry that you are going through this.  I have been through it myself and I came out on the other side - I left when my son was 6 weeks and today he's 3 1/2.

  I'm here to tell you that there are soooo soooo many resources to help you leave and stay away.  Begin by contacting your local domestic violence shelter - these shelters can set you up on programs to help you become independant - temporary housing, childcare, financial assistance, food and clothing.  The possibilities are endless as to the kind of help you can receive.  Had I known how much help I would've received when I left I would've left years earlier.  They also have support groups and counseling if you don't think you're ready to leave quite yet - and that's a common feeling for someone in your shoes - I know I've been there. 

  I'm a member of this amazing group on here called Domestic Violence Survivors: The Power of Being Free.  All of us are at different stages - some are getting ready to leave, questioning whether they should stay or go, or have been out for years and are still dealing with our corrupt court system and/or other issues related to their ex abusers.  I welcome you to come and check us out - everything is confidential and there is no bashing at our group. 

  He hit you in the face sweetie - and that's abuse and neither you or your child want to stay in that situation.  Him denying it happened is very common for these types of men.  And statistics prove over and over again - if he hits you once he WILL hit you again.  I hope you check us out - we also have alot of great resources on domestic violence.

   

   

   

   

   

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  • Weasy
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:20 PM

• Didn't know he hit you--ya right. He's just trying to get out of it! And yes he WILL do it again. Leave his ugly _$$.

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