My Fiance hit me in the face last night :*(

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  • Schleetle
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:21 PM

• Either leave to a shelter for women in abusive relationships if you have nowhere else to go, or get him help right away.
  

  
  

                               
  

  
  

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  • Kleotide
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:22 PM

• I agree completely. Take your son, call a women's shelter, go back home when he won't be there and collect your essentials.  Make sure you bring a friend with you.  I love my husband, we have built a life together over the past 7 years.  But if he Ever hit me.  I would be gone forever.  I don't wouldn't care how sorry he is.  If he hits while he's drunk he'll do it when he's sober one day, you don't need your son around that or, heaven forbid, to learn and copy it.  Leave. Leave now.
  

  Quoting Trasee:
  
  

  Agreed.  Hitting is hitting, drunk or not.  People get killed ALL THE TIME in drunken rages.
  

  Quoting MommyRivera:
  
  

  Tell him he needs to go to alcoholic's anonymous and get anger management before you and your son will return.
  

  Quoting YoursTruelyXD:
  
  

   He was soooooo drunk last night, that he might have blacked out but still there is no reason to hit anybody.

  
  

  
  

  
  

             
  

   Married since 08/3/06   Inara 9/21/08       Trying for #2!
  

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  • LEJOLIE
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:23 PM

•  hes gonna hit you again. Oh yes he is.

  

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  • SnoBuny
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:23 PM

• I agree with this!! It is not always black and white. People can make mistakes like this...it can be a one time thing. Go with your gut...do not put or leave yourself in danger and certainly do not leave your kids in danger. What do you think? How do you feel about it? Do you think it was a one time deal and if he got some help do you think it would be safe to stay?
  

  Quoting Angelicembrace:
  
  

  I don't agree with a majority in here..well kind of. I think that if he can hit you once he could hit you again, but it doesn't mean it can't work out..if he's willing to get help and you are too, and he's willing to do AA and such then I think it can get better and he can change--but it takes a lot of work. Not all men who hit woman once continue to do so--it depends on if they feel so bad about it and feel it was so wrong that they seek help. If he refuses help, then that should be your answer. If he doesn't--I'd get out asap--by like others suggesting calling shelters/ect. If he's willing to get help make sure he knows that means him being comitted 100 percent, and that AA needs to be done along with therapy and so forth..even if he doesn't think he needs AA,if he's drinking to a point where he's blacking out and hitting you..that's enough to need to stop drinking.

   

  Good luck with everything!

  
  

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  • possummom
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:24 PM

• how does not not know he hit you? and in the face? sorry but if he hit you once he will probably do it again. you need to contact a shelter in your area and leave him. dont go back. dont look back. you will be better off and so will your son. i wish you luck and hope that you and your son are okay.

                 

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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  • jessi1971
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:24 PM

• If he didnt know he hit you that means he probably blacked out.  And thats a very scarey thing because next time he could do worse!

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  • sarahincolorado
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:25 PM
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  Quoting MOM22QTS:
  
  

  how does he not know he hit yoU? 

  
  

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  • dannysgirl77
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:26 PM

• right, and if he is getting that drunk he needs to stop drinking all together to make the "accident" up to you, if that is what it truly was.
  

  Quoting YoursTruelyXD:
  
  

   He was soooooo drunk last night, that he might have blacked out but still there is no reason to hit anybody.

  
  

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  • wsv777
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:27 PM

• Exactly you answered your own question now get down to some state programs and get a way out of there!!!!
  

  Quoting YoursTruelyXD:
  
  

   He was soooooo drunk last night, that he might have blacked out but still there is no reason to hit anybody.

  
  

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  • Mysty_1961
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:28 PM

• Leave him, leave him, leave him.  He hit you, he was drunk that is two strikes against him.  Do not stay around to see what the 3rd strike will be.  This is the way an abuser starts, and he is always sorry, sweet,  and promises to not do it again.  What he means is he will not do it again until you do something he does not agree with, then he will hit you and push you to the ground.  Next day he will tell you how much he loves you and will be nice until the next time something comes up then he will hit you a number of time maybe even break something hitting you with it.  You can stay but be prepared for him to explode again, and abuser has nothing to offer you, and it will do your child to see to see his mother constantly beat up, and perhaps even be in fear of his life because the same thing might happen to him.  You can get out call the abuse hot line, call a woman's shelter, go to a friends.  Do what you have to do before you are locked in the house and not allowed to leave.
  

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