My Fiance hit me in the face last night :*(

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  • EJAPfreesouls
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:29 PM

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  Does your Fiance do this often????? he is mentally abusive as well?? Not a good situation to be in. I would suggest staying with a family or friend for a while. I f he says he is sorry and will not do it again he can not be trusted. Once a man hits they continue to do it. There is never an excuse to hit a woman NEVER!!!!!!!!! I don't care what the problem is he does not have the right to do that to you. Can you convieve in someone? can you talk to a police woman? can you find a shelter for women who have been hit????? can you talk to Mom or Dad????. Maybe this is a good time to evaluate your relationship with this man. Maybe he is not the right guy for you after all. His he controlling of you because that is a RED FLAG!! that it will only get worse down the road. Please find someone to talk to file a report or a restraining order if you have too. Don't go back to him until your sure that he gets some help.

  Good luck and atay strong!!!!!

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  • AKB20037
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:29 PM

• I have been in your situation...many women saying get up and leave its easy...thats bullshit, its never easy to just pack everything u worked so hard to get to and just up and leave your life!

  My ex hit me the first time sober and he woke up the next day saying he was so sorry he didnt realize what he was doing and I forgave him but told him the drinkin needed to stop, which it did for about 6 months. It was superbowl and he has some drinks with some friends and once everyone left we got in a fight about cleaning the house and I ended up thrown against a wall and he choked me while I had my son in my arms! I called the cops and the cops made ME leave my own home and let him stay because I was the one with friends and family in the area I could go to. So I left for the night and returned after he went to work the next day. I wouldnt let him back in after work until he promised to either move out or get counsling because I didnt want to be around him until he knew what he did was wrong and got help for his problem. He promised and it never happened, I left him shortly after.

  So even though its not easy to get up and leave it more then likely will happen again because they feel they can get away with it, so unless u force him to get help he may not realize it was as bad as it really is.

  Please dont raise a kid in that sorta life style my son used to always ask why daddy is so mean, and I had no answer to give him without sounding horrible.

  If you have family or friends you can stay with I would until he can get some help, drinking is never good exspecially if he dont remember what he did.

  If you need any advice or just want to talk feel free to write me.

  
  
  

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  • jenjen07
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:30 PM

• Take it from me leave NOW!  he hit once he will hit you again trust me

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  • Jessie3398
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:32 PM

• It Will happen again, maybe even worse next time.
  

  
  

  

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  • weldingmom4
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:43 PM

• He knows he hit you- "pretending" he doesn't is a ploy used by abusers to envoke sympathy, and make  YOU feel guilty. It wasn't that he would never hit you - he just hadn't hit you yet. Use social services to help you get out of this abusuive situation- that's what it's for.  The kind of man your son becomes will be DIRECTLY affected by the kind of man you put in his life for role models.Your fiance will start by hitting you and when that isn't enough he WILL move on to your son. Get out-  my sister didn't get out at first and her abuser put her in hosp. with severe head injuries and numerous broken bones, then he moved on to my nephew. This will happen to you- and if you don't fight for your future and your child's future- WHO WILL?

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  • StormiAnn
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:46 PM

• Couldnt have said it better myself!!
  

  Quoting MommySayz:
  
  

  call your local family services offices, make an appointment, go get some assistance, and emergency housing, it will suck, but theres ALWAYS options in that situation.

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  stick it out, get some counselling for both of you and start looking for a job and making better solutions for yourself jic things go bad again.

  either way its going to be hard.

  but i suggest you start finding a better way to take care of yourself and your LO so you dont feel so trapped.

  good luck.
  

  
  

  

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  • TifaKitty
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:49 PM

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  Quoting pookybear94:
  
  

  What did he black out? How could he not know he was hitting you.?

   This was my thought. That he possibly blacked out. Thats the only way that  I can think of that he could possibly not know. My fiance had the same problem. He never hit me, but he did black out at times where he didnt know what he was doing. He almost kicked his sister in the face once because of it.
  

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  • WifeyandMommy89
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:52 PM

• I have been in your position.. I am one month free and safe.. I am more than willing to share my story with you, but not in this post. I am done doing that as one mom thinks that using the fact that I was abused against me is cute (In one of the *bitch * groups)... Feel free to PM me anytime for any purpose!!!!!

  I am so sorry you are going through this, be safe momma... I wish you and your son the best of luck
  

  
  

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  • Lauren24
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:54 PM

• where do you live?
  

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  • dre_bunny
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 7:59 PM

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  Quoting MommyRivera:
  
  

  Tell him he needs to go to alcoholic's anonymous and get anger management before you and your son will return.
  

  Quoting YoursTruelyXD:
  
  

   He was soooooo drunk last night, that he might have blacked out but still there is no reason to hit anybody.

  
  

  
  

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