Are single mothers lesser for being single?

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  • DejaVooDoo
  on Jul. 3, 2009 at 2:03 AM

• exactly right
  

  Quoting faerie75:
  
  

   i have been a single mom of two boys for 12 years. i was married, and left him because of domestic violence. i work and always have, and hes supported the boys at his convenience.

  my husband was hispanic, and somehow one of my kids looks completely hispanic and the other completely white. i cant tell you how amny times its been assumed my kids are from multiple fathers and that ive not been married.

  i am nowhere near trash, but i just wanna ask, why is it that a line forms to suck a single custodial fathers cock but us single moms are trash? sure, everyone "knows some poor dude whos babys mom is trash" but how many responsible single moms do you know? "oh but they chose to have kids w a loser" well what did the aforementioned superdads do? hmmmm?

  
  

                                                 
  

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  • Megan6758
  on Jul. 3, 2009 at 2:03 AM
• thats sad. I would think people would prefer kids to be with parents who are happy regardless of whether they are married or not. I would rather be single if I didn't love my boyfriend then keep him around so my kids can see us fight
  
  
  
  

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  • reddgoddess
  on Jul. 3, 2009 at 2:04 AM

• no...and not to be rude, but for you to even ask such a question is a bit....ummm...how do i say this nicely.... "silly." 

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  • Princess_Sarah7
  on Jul. 3, 2009 at 2:04 AM

•   Some are, but so are some married women. As long as you are taking care of your kids you are not trash. I have seen some mothers just pawn there kids off so they can go and do whatever they want, and party all the time. That is what I call trashy. Single or not.

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  • Gwynyth
  on Jul. 3, 2009 at 2:05 AM

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  Quoting Gwynyth:
  
  

  I am going to be a single mom in a few weeks.  I am single by choice.  I am educated, self-sufficient, own my own house, have great friends, great family, a lot of faith, a desire to reach out to others in need, I love my baby, and nothing is more important to me than being the best mother I can!  If that makes me "trash" then so be it!

  Just thought I should clarify...I didn't get pregnant on purpose, but I love my baby very much!      I chose to raise  the baby alone because it deserves stability and love, not chaos.  I believe I can provide a healthier home alone than with a selfish, immature man.

  

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  • DejaVooDoo
  on Jul. 3, 2009 at 2:06 AM

• Lovely and I agree with you.
  

  Quoting Megan6758:
  
  thats sad. I would think people would prefer kids to be with parents who are happy regardless of whether they are married or not. I would rather be single if I didn't love my boyfriend then keep him around so my kids can see us fight
  
  
  
  

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  • faerie75
  on Jul. 3, 2009 at 2:06 AM

•  ps - to those of you voting yes....

  i live in a good neighborhood, im sure you are those other moms at my sons school, the ones whos sons are close w my son but you wont allow your kids to come over and play.

  you keep being that way. i will be laughing when my sons in the MLB because he kicks all your sons asses up and down the field at little league.

  hahah!!!

  

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  • DejaVooDoo
  on Jul. 3, 2009 at 2:07 AM

• Its perfectly fine if you see it as being silly.  But as you can see by the poll included they dont exactly class it as that.  They honestly believe that single parents are trash.  If an honest question warrants as a silly question fine by you.  But I do think it is warranted.
  

  Quoting reddgoddess:
  
  

  no...and not to be rude, but for you to even ask such a question is a bit....ummm...how do i say this nicely.... "silly." 

  
  

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  • edwardsgirl
  on Jul. 3, 2009 at 2:07 AM

• no. I do not feel i am better than a single mother.I also don't feel they work any harder than i work simply because they are single. I work with a lot of single mommies and we equally bust our asses. What they do at home may be different but i don't think they work harder. I am not better or above them and they are not better or above me.

   

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  • amourepropre
  on Jul. 3, 2009 at 2:08 AM

• What does that have to do with being a single mother? Does that give him some special baseball skills or something? I'm sure there was a vaild point that I just missed, right?
  

  Quoting faerie75:
  
  

  you keep being that way. i will be laughing when my sons in the MLB because he kicks all your sons asses up and down the field at little league.

  hahah!!!

  
  

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