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Would you let your child play with another child who's parents were.... *update*

GothyMama

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on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:06 PM

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Question: Would you disallow your child from playing with another child just because their PARENTS believed differently than you do?

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*GASP* ATHEIST?!?!?!  LOL so I joined a group on meet-up.com that was SUPPOSED to be a PLAYGROUP for toddlers/infants, and I happen to have... an infant and a toddler.  And the group location was really close to where I live.  That's the ONLY thing I took into consideration when joining.  Well, not 10 minutes later, I was removed!  Why?  In my interests, I have listed atheism/skepicism.  Ok... and that has WHAT to do with a playgroup?!?  You think I'm going to come in and start insulting people just for believing?  I am NOT that kind of atheist.  I have friends of all different religions.  I just never bring it up.  Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if most people didn't even know I was an atheist, because I DON'T TALK ABOUT RELIGION when I'm out and about with people.  I'll discuss it with my husband and my step-dad, because they're both atheists.

Anyway, I don't really care that "I can't play because I'm an atheist" or whatever, but seriously?  How mean is it to keep a child out of a playgroup just because their PARENTS believe differently than you do??

*Update* So like I said, I emailed the organizer about being removed because of my atheism, and guess what!  She apologized!  And invited me to re-join!  And from her email, it looks like we have a LOT in common besides religion.  She was just afraid I might tell her kids there wasn't a God, which is something I would NEVER do!  She's the parent, it's her job to teach her kids her beliefs and (hopefully) let them know there's people who believe differently.

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  • caiti
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:09 PM
  • Sounds pretty typical of a "christian" group. Different is dangerous, you know. *rolls eyes* I'm glad you're not afraid to be yourself.

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  • ashnevlex
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:09 PM
  • I wouldn't mind if our kids played together! But I don't really care much about other people's religion. Unless they're weirdos. 

  • Vincesmama
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:10 PM
  • I honestly feel like kids should be exposed to different beliefs. I realize that you said you're not really vocal about yours, but I don't think it's right to expose kids to only one point of view. I mean, that's not much different from not letting your kid play with kids of a different ethnicity, or whose parents are homosexual, etc. I don't think anyone benefits if you're kids grow up sheltered. They'll find out about the real world eventually.

    And I think it's ridiculous that you were removed from the group because of that. But, then again, you probably wouldn't have wanted to join a group that would remove you based on that anyway. Good luck finding a better play group.
  • MommySayz
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:11 PM
  • there are so many religious back grounds in my family, if we didnt let them play/associate with people who were different, they would never leave the house.

    sorry you had to go through that!


  • Honii
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:12 PM
  • I could care less and most times I don't know what someone's religion is unless they mention it.   

  • KareemsMami
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:12 PM
  • I'm agnostic and as long as they're not pushing it on my kid that we're "going to hell" because I don't believe in "god" then I'm fine and damn dandy :]. I'd have my kid play with yours any day of the week, as long as you're a good person.


  • CrozCryz
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:13 PM
  • I agree with caiti... hence why I went from Christian to Agnostic many years ago... I'm so going to that site to sign up and see what happens... isn't it against the law for them to remove you due to religious beliefs?  Maybe we should make a new playgroup with a tag saying 'all Christian's will be removed'... I bet that would go over well with them!

  • SIS213
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:13 PM

  • Quoting caiti:

    Sounds pretty typical of a "christian" group. Different is dangerous, you know. *rolls eyes* I'm glad you're not afraid to be yourself.

    to each his own............

  • Kaelaasmom
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:13 PM
  •  I don't care what a person's beliefs are. As long as nobody tries to convert me, our kids can play all the time.



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  • AngelicaRenee
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:14 PM
  • I must not be a typical christian. And my church too. I would never tell my son he couldn't play with someone just because their parents were athiest. Now if they were telling my child that what we believed was stupid/wrong anything like that i probably wouldn't. but i have friends who are athiest and i'd let my son play with their kids if they had any! lol

    Quoting caiti:

    Sounds pretty typical of a "christian" group. Different is dangerous, you know. *rolls eyes* I'm glad you're not afraid to be yourself.


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