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Would you let your child play with another child who's parents were.... *update*

GothyMama

posted to Newcomers Club - Active discussion in The CafeMom Newcomers Club
on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:06 PM

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Question: Would you disallow your child from playing with another child just because their PARENTS believed differently than you do?

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*GASP* ATHEIST?!?!?!  LOL so I joined a group on meet-up.com that was SUPPOSED to be a PLAYGROUP for toddlers/infants, and I happen to have... an infant and a toddler.  And the group location was really close to where I live.  That's the ONLY thing I took into consideration when joining.  Well, not 10 minutes later, I was removed!  Why?  In my interests, I have listed atheism/skepicism.  Ok... and that has WHAT to do with a playgroup?!?  You think I'm going to come in and start insulting people just for believing?  I am NOT that kind of atheist.  I have friends of all different religions.  I just never bring it up.  Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if most people didn't even know I was an atheist, because I DON'T TALK ABOUT RELIGION when I'm out and about with people.  I'll discuss it with my husband and my step-dad, because they're both atheists.

Anyway, I don't really care that "I can't play because I'm an atheist" or whatever, but seriously?  How mean is it to keep a child out of a playgroup just because their PARENTS believe differently than you do??

*Update* So like I said, I emailed the organizer about being removed because of my atheism, and guess what!  She apologized!  And invited me to re-join!  And from her email, it looks like we have a LOT in common besides religion.  She was just afraid I might tell her kids there wasn't a God, which is something I would NEVER do!  She's the parent, it's her job to teach her kids her beliefs and (hopefully) let them know there's people who believe differently.

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  • mariscilla
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:31 PM
  • ditto, i am christian too and i would not disallow my children to play with another child because my beliefs might be different. it's the real world.

    Quoting AngelicaRenee:

    I must not be a typical christian. And my church too. I would never tell my son he couldn't play with someone just because their parents were athiest. Now if they were telling my child that what we believed was stupid/wrong anything like that i probably wouldn't. but i have friends who are athiest and i'd let my son play with their kids if they had any! lol

    Quoting caiti:

    Sounds pretty typical of a "christian" group. Different is dangerous, you know. *rolls eyes* I'm glad you're not afraid to be yourself.

     


  • GothyMama
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:32 PM

  • Quoting CrozCryz:

    I agree with caiti... hence why I went from Christian to Agnostic many years ago... I'm so going to that site to sign up and see what happens... isn't it against the law for them to remove you due to religious beliefs?  Maybe we should make a new playgroup with a tag saying 'all Christian's will be removed'... I bet that would go over well with them!

    LOL, well unfortunately I think it's up to the organizer's discression who they let into a group.  Though I do think they should be required to tag it as religious if they're going to deny membership just for not believing.

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  • CallieLynsMommy
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:32 PM
  • I have no problems with other peoples beliefs and like many other moms have stated, feel that kids should be exposed to numerous religions and viewpoints. It's a bit ridiculous that they kicked you out IMO.

    "You must be the change you wish to see in the world."- Mahatma Gandhi
  • Kerfuffle
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:34 PM
  • I would fall under agnostic/pagan, I suppose.

    I would never stop my kids from playing with others who have different beliefs. I am not going to instill my beliefs in them...  I am going to do my best to expose them to as many religions as possible. I believe knowledge breeds tolerance... so them hanging with people of differing beliefs is a good thing.

  • naturalmom86
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:34 PM
  • I would let my child play with whomever he/she wanted as long as the parents were responsible and trustworthy. I think its important to expose your children to different beliefs and let them make their own mind up.

  • 3kidsbrown
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:35 PM
  • I could less about what people believe in unless they push it on me. Kids should be exposed to all different things if they are not how can they grow up to be toleratnt of others.
  • MommaXfour
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:36 PM
  • i read it wrong so i put yes instead of no.....but i could care less about what religion you are or if you are gay/lesbian....i just dont care...as long as you dont ush something onto my child or you do not do something to my child then it is all good! 

  • Caitlin10081989
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:38 PM
  • I see no problem with it as long as you are not pushing what you believe in or what you do not believe in. Try finding a playgroup that does not care about religion. Or message the one you got deleted from and ask why your religion had anything to do with a playgroup? Who knows, the moms might talk about religious topics and figure that you would not want to attend because you do not believe the same as they do.

  • tairakittie
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:38 PM
  • We dont believe in any form of religion... all of my ideals lead back to scientific theories (big bang, evolution, etc) instead of any sort of god.

    Quoting mommaof4boyz09:

    Ok What is an athiest?



  • Becky.Mom.of.2
  • by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:42 PM

  • Quoting Honii:

    I could care less and most times I don't know what someone's religion is unless they mention it.   

    Same here.

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