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okay.. I am a failure... no bashing.
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on Jul. 3, 2009 at 7:24 PM
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I am a SAHM and I hate it.. I love my dd but I hate myself. I feel as if I am worthless. like I am unproductive and stupid and that my dh deserves something better. I want to get a job but I don't want to leave my dd she is getting soo big so fast and I don't want a stranger seeing her firsts. I am lonely and need friends but live in the country and don't believe in god so church is out and it is soo hot so the park is out.. i am just lonely and I feel pathetic. I am trying to find work at home jobs to relieve some stress from my husband he wants to go back to college to do xray tech. so I am gonna try and do a wah tech support job so he can work part time and go to school. but I don't know who would want to hire a sahm. I am sorry I am crying. I don't know what to do. I just feel like a peice of shit and that my dd and dh deserve a better person. no offense to any sahm. I guess i just grew up weird but my dh is supportive. i grew up in a terrible house and that I had to work always bc if something goes wrong I need to support myself and my mom was a sahm but she was lazy and I am not I mean sometimes I am but I play with mydd so much I will be cleaning and then she will laugh at me I just can't help it. its not dirty I just I don't know I feel lazy and worthlesss. my rant is done. nobody has to reply just had to get that out.
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- by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 7:53 PM
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not trying to be blunt by the way. i reread it and it sounded a little i dunno. but honestly you could be depressed or worse.
Quoting bradyboo227:
maybe you should go talk to a professional and get on some meds.
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- by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 8:03 PM
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i can tell I am depressed when I was a teenager it was worse, I am just kinda down. lately.. thanks for the concern..
Quoting bradyboo227:
not trying to be blunt by the way. i reread it and it sounded a little i dunno. but honestly you could be depressed or worse.
Quoting bradyboo227:
maybe you should go talk to a professional and get on some meds.
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- by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 8:06 PM
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i think you might have PPD, and you should try talking to a doctor. i also think you might try meetup and see if you can find other SAHM's in your area to meet with and have fun play dates. try taking some mommy and me classes to get out of the house and do little things for yourself to bring up your spirits.
you will get through this, *hugs*
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- by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 8:14 PM
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I knew that wouldn't take long... She doesn't BELIEVE in God so obviously that is not what she needs.
OP - You sound like I did last year. My twins had just turned one and I felt just like you do. I went and talked to my Dr. about everything that was going on and how I was feeling. I had PPD and it was pretty bad. He put me on some meds which are working wonderful. Once the fog clears it's so much easier to see the trees and before too long you will see the forest and feel wonderful again. make any sense?
I also agree with the other mommies, get involved in something that you and your DD can do together where you can meet other SAHM's. We have a place here called "Java Mama" its a coffee house where they have a gated in area with toys and playhouses. Drop your kids in there and sit and chat with other mommies. That's what I like to do.
Good luck to you
Quoting NadiasMommy427:
Sounds to me like you need God right now.
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:50 AM
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thank you everybody for the support right after I poster my dd crawled up to me and kissed me it was soo sweet.
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:56 AM
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Have you checked out things like textbroker.com or associatedpress.com? They pay you to write articles. It is a way you could still be home, but make some money to help out and spend a part of your day doing something that stimulates your mind.
Ronda
SAHM to Alyssa and B (5 years apart to the day)
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 11:02 AM
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I am sorry honey. I would go see your doctor first of all and see if you are having some post partum depression issues. I would also seek out local mom groups in your area and start taking your L/O to some play outings, so you can meet some other moms and she can have age appropriate fun. Maybe find a cause close to your heart and volunteer with them. I work in dog rescue , and volunteering has been great for me AND My kids. Maybe take a class in something you are interested in. I am sorry you feel bad.
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 11:02 AM
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i didn't even know about that but it sounds cool.
Quoting Rondamb:
Have you checked out things like textbroker.com or associatedpress.com? They pay you to write articles. It is a way you could still be home, but make some money to help out and spend a part of your day doing something that stimulates your mind.
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