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okay.. I am a failure... no bashing.
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on Jul. 3, 2009 at 7:24 PM
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I am a SAHM and I hate it.. I love my dd but I hate myself. I feel as if I am worthless. like I am unproductive and stupid and that my dh deserves something better. I want to get a job but I don't want to leave my dd she is getting soo big so fast and I don't want a stranger seeing her firsts. I am lonely and need friends but live in the country and don't believe in god so church is out and it is soo hot so the park is out.. i am just lonely and I feel pathetic. I am trying to find work at home jobs to relieve some stress from my husband he wants to go back to college to do xray tech. so I am gonna try and do a wah tech support job so he can work part time and go to school. but I don't know who would want to hire a sahm. I am sorry I am crying. I don't know what to do. I just feel like a peice of shit and that my dd and dh deserve a better person. no offense to any sahm. I guess i just grew up weird but my dh is supportive. i grew up in a terrible house and that I had to work always bc if something goes wrong I need to support myself and my mom was a sahm but she was lazy and I am not I mean sometimes I am but I play with mydd so much I will be cleaning and then she will laugh at me I just can't help it. its not dirty I just I don't know I feel lazy and worthlesss. my rant is done. nobody has to reply just had to get that out.
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 1:08 PM
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Where in Central Florida are you? I live in Casselberry near Orlando...and man it is hot it's insane when you go to the pool you get out and within like 2 mins. your already half way dry...
To the OP just keep your head held high, breath, and you may want to keep a journal. And no bible thumping but you may want to rethink the whole not needing or beleiving in god. he is able to help you with anything if you let him. GL
Quoting Phatpatswife:
I know exactly how you feel. I've felt the same exact way. When I was laid off 18 months ago I thought it would be perfect because I could stay home with my son. So here I am 18 months later and I do love being home with him but I miss the identity I had when I was a working mom. Being that hubby and I never plan to put our children in daycare, I started going to college shortly after I was laid off. I go to University of Phoenix online and it's great. I'm actually less then a year away from my AA and I started last March. Our plan is for me to finish my AA then go to nursing school. After that i'm hoping to work in a hospital 2nd or 3rd shift until our kids are all in school and then work 1st shift. That way we don't have to put our kids in daycare and we're always there for them and getting to see all that they are developing into.
I know this was a bit of a ramble about me but hopefully you understand what i'm trying to say.
Hang in there and pm me if you'd like. I really am in the same situation because it's extremely hot here in Central FL and we can't do anything outside of the house so i'm home all day with my kids alone and definitely don't feel like i'm a beneficial member of society sometimes.
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