Last night dh and I got into yet another arguement and ended up going at it for 3 hours. At the end we both decided maybe this isnt working.
This morning he said he wants to try counseling..
Has anyone been to marriage counseling? Did it help? We have three kids the youngest two just turned one. I love that man with all my heart but I dont want to live like this anymore... if things dont change I am done. Last night after talking for so long I figured out one HUGE problem is he thinks I mean one thing when I say another and I often do the same thing to him.
I just want to know if anyone has been through counseling for a marriage you thought was over.. and did it help?
There is no cheating or physical abuse at all. He gets angry and calls me names and I know that is something that needs to be worked on and he has acknowledged that as well.
Thanks!
All i can say, is look at my profile and you will decide from there.
Yes, definitely go. It will get better because both of you are willing to try.
Don't give up, and go to counseling. You will be glad you did. But find a good therapist.
Yes my fiance and I have gone a year or 2 back.... We had serious problems.... We both got seperate counciling as well... We are going back to couple her in a few weeks.... We did it cause we love each other and want to make it work for us... We do love the kids with all our hearts but if we cant be in it for us we shouldnt be in it all.... There has been no cheating or physical violence twards me or the kids but stuff has been thrown and names have been called ( by us both).... Now we are doing it for just so that we can get out some stuff out there and help with our parenting style because we are both parent different and want to be on the same page...
It sounds to me like you're not wanting your marriage to be over, so I think you should try the counseling. You just have to be open minded and listen to what your dh says during your sessions and he has to do the same. Good Luck!
Hugs mama.. I know how much I am hurting and can imagine you are the same... *hugs*
Quoting kiwi05amber:
i'm going through the same thing with my dh right now. but it just seems like neither one of us is in the relationship full on all the time. i'm interested in seeing what is said on this post.
My DH and I have been in counseling and it was wonderful for us!!! I would definitely recommend going!!!!
me and my hubby have our problems and i try to leave at times and he stops me and begs me not to go i know how u feel the only thing that gets me is atleast yours is willing to go to consuling mine wont even do that he doesnt want other people knowing our business as he puts it but i say honestly if your man is willing to try it to save your marriage then do it honestly do it try it! try watching fireproof together i have heard from people that has helped people but the only thing is and im in no way blaming this on anyone's kids cause im sure the kids have nothing to do with it im just pointing out one thing someone told me the couple in fireproof have no kids now i havent watched the movie but i did go buy the book the love dare and im trying that now so its worth a shot
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on Jul. 3, 2009 at 11:19 PM