baby shower or after party??

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  • imamombygrace
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:19 AM

• This is our second DD.  Our little ones will be four years and two months apart..so I still have everything left over from our first DD.  Not only that if there is one perk about having infertility issues..you have time to get things as you go.  The only major things we need is a new car seat and either a bassinet or cradle/swing.

  We plan to have a celebration party of Emma's birth after she is born.  DH will be off for about a month and we plan on having a small get together...like a grill out or small supper.  We plan to invite all our family then.  For us..dh's family is extremely small and mine is enormous.  I have family living everywhere.  So I much rather for them to make to the trip to actually see my daughter than just see me at a baby shower.

  

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  • KBM99
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:24 AM

• yea me and SO both have pretty big families that are from all over but pretty much still in the same state and I would rather everyone come to see the baby instead of making the drive to see me and then the baby. And my SO's schedule is a rotating shifts and pretty much set schedule unless they ask for overtime and we can plan everything around him. So it all works out haha..
  

  Quoting imamombygrace:
  
  

  This is our second DD.  Our little ones will be four years and two months apart..so I still have everything left over from our first DD.  Not only that if there is one perk about having infertility issues..you have time to get things as you go.  The only major things we need is a new car seat and either a bassinet or cradle/swing.

  We plan to have a celebration party of Emma's birth after she is born.  DH will be off for about a month and we plan on having a small get together...like a grill out or small supper.  We plan to invite all our family then.  For us..dh's family is extremely small and mine is enormous.  I have family living everywhere.  So I much rather for them to make to the trip to actually see my daughter than just see me at a baby shower.

  
  

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  • mommybug77
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:25 AM

• I would NEVER have an after baby party. I do not expose my newborn to a lot of people. I also have to have a c-section & am not up to entertaining & people understood that. My last baby (the only 1 I had a shower for) was born 12/22 & we came home on 12/24. I was not even up to try to celebrate Christmas let alone have to worry about having people around.

  I know people love babies but they need to have some patience & consideration.

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  • ErikaM27
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:26 AM

• Honestly I would have a babyshower. Just the thought of having people over a couple days after labor for a party isn't my thing so I'd prefer a babyshower.

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  • KBM99
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:26 AM

• and mine are only going to be about 21 months apart so I still have a bunch of the things IF its a boy but some of my DS stuff is unisex and can go either way like his highchair, bouncer(if its still in storage haha) and a few other things. But if its a girl all the boy clothes are going to get sold to help buy things for the girl haha. And we didnt plan on getting pregnant anytime soon so I sold a lot of my things but o well I came the main things..

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  • KBM99
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:28 AM

• I know either way I will have people over no matter what and if I have a get together MOST of them will come to the get together and that will give me less visitors during the other days..
  

  Quoting ErikaM27:
  
  

  Honestly I would have a babyshower. Just the thought of having people over a couple days after labor for a party isn't my thing so I'd prefer a babyshower.

  
  

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  • mommybug77
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:31 AM

• Why would you HAVE to have people over? Do they not have enough sense to realize you just gave birth & need to rest. Yours & the babies rest & well being is more important than anyone who feels they HAVE to see the baby. My DH would be letting people know that I would call them when I was ready to see people.
  

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  I know either way I will have people over no matter what and if I have a get together MOST of them will come to the get together and that will give me less visitors during the other days..

  Quoting ErikaM27:
  
  

  Honestly I would have a babyshower. Just the thought of having people over a couple days after labor for a party isn't my thing so I'd prefer a babyshower.

   

  
  

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  • imamombygrace
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:36 AM

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  Quoting KBM99:
  
  

  I know either way I will have people over no matter what and if I have a get together MOST of them will come to the get together and that will give me less visitors during the other days..

  Quoting ErikaM27:
  
  

  Honestly I would have a babyshower. Just the thought of having people over a couple days after labor for a party isn't my thing so I'd prefer a babyshower.

   

  That's how I feel.  We had so many visitors over a course of days after DD was born.  It was exhausting getting a newborns schedule down, being new parents, and then having to entertain.

  As for people coming over around a newborn..our family  would never come if they know they are sick.  Also, dh's department gave us two cans of hospital strength hand sanitizer/foam as a gift(they know how paranoid I am..lol) we asked everyone to wash their hands and then use the sanitize before holding our little one.  Also, there is no rule that everyone has to even hold him or her.
  

  

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  • mommybug77
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:37 AM

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  Quoting imamombygrace:
  
  

   

  Quoting KBM99:
  
  

  I know either way I will have people over no matter what and if I have a get together MOST of them will come to the get together and that will give me less visitors during the other days..

  Quoting ErikaM27:
  
  

  Honestly I would have a babyshower. Just the thought of having people over a couple days after labor for a party isn't my thing so I'd prefer a babyshower.

   

  That's how I feel.  We had so many visitors over a course of days after DD was born.  It was exhausting getting a newborns schedule down, being new parents, and then having to entertain.

  As for people coming over around a newborn..our family  would never come if they know they are sick.  Also, dh's department gave us two cans of hospital strength hand sanitizer/foam as a gift(they know how paranoid I am..lol) we asked everyone to wash their hands and then use the sanitize before holding our little one.  Also, there is no rule that everyone has to even hold him or her.

  The thing is if they are a carrier they can be sick & never show signs. They will just pass it along to others.
  

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  • LadybugsMonkeys
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:37 AM

• Instead of gifts you could ask for the guest to write parental advice or maybe share their favorite children's book.  

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