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baby shower or after party??
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on Jul. 3, 2009 at 11:28 PM
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I already posted this in anoter group but I normally get most of my replies from this group haha. So I was thinking about not having a baby shower for this baby. My reason is. This is already baby number 2 and I am a young mother and I dont want people thinking I'm just having a baby shower just to get baby gifts because thats not what I want. So I was considering just having a big I guess "party" about a week after the baby is born as long as everything is okay with the baby.. Not like huge but with my family and close friends to come see the baby and if people to bring presents they can if not o well. I have a lot of things and I'm still going to do a baby registry and all but I dont want to seem like the greedy type. I already have a crib, matress, stroller, a double stroller, car seat, a bunch of baby clothes, a bouncer, a walker, and many other things. I have baby bedding already from my first one but I'm going to buy another baby bedding and just sell my old one. But do you think thats a good idea? Or no? My mom said I should still have a baby shower but if I do have one it will be a small one not a big one. What do you think or what would you do?? Please reply and answer the poll.
Heres a little info about me.
I'm 18 I'll be 19 when this baby is born
I got pregnant with my first at 16 and had him at 17.
Both babies have the same daddy and we're living together in our own apartment and still engaged.
I have great friends and a supportive family.
And I had three baby showers with the last baby and I dont want to do that again.
I didnt throw any of them my bestfriends threw one for me for all my friends, my parents threw the other for both families and my parents friends threw one for the friends of the family.
O yea and when my son was born for the first two weeks I thought I was going to go CRAZY because I could never sleep because I had visitors ALL DAY! And the baby was up all through out the night.
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 1:20 AM
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I agree with you to an extent.. But like how old will the baby be when yall are good and ready? And then once yall are ready your gana have a TON of visitors.. I dont want to bed the type of newborn mommy that doesnt allow visitors. I want my family and friends to be able to come see the baby. I know whenever my friends had there babies I went to see them and I took them either some food or a gift for the baby.
Quoting imamombygrace:
Quoting KBM99:
I know either way I will have people over no matter what and if I have a get together MOST of them will come to the get together and that will give me less visitors during the other days..
Quoting ErikaM27:
Honestly I would have a babyshower. Just the thought of having people over a couple days after labor for a party isn't my thing so I'd prefer a babyshower.
That's how I feel. We had so many visitors over a course of days after DD was born. It was exhausting getting a newborns schedule down, being new parents, and then having to entertain.
As for people coming over around a newborn..our family would never come if they know they are sick. Also, dh's department gave us two cans of hospital strength hand sanitizer/foam as a gift(they know how paranoid I am..lol) we asked everyone to wash their hands and then use the sanitize before holding our little one. Also, there is no rule that everyone has to even hold him or her.
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 1:54 AM
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Quoting mommybug77:
I would NEVER have an after baby party. I do not expose my newborn to a lot of people. I also have to have a c-section & am not up to entertaining & people understood that. My last baby (the only 1 I had a shower for) was born 12/22 & we came home on 12/24. I was not even up to try to celebrate Christmas let alone have to worry about having people around.
I know people love babies but they need to have some patience & consideration.
Mine is scheduled for 5 weeks after my c-section. I'm hoping that will be enough time!
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 2:11 AM
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I had an after party for my 2nd child, it was actually, a welcome to the family / birthday party for me, my son was born 5 days after my birthday. So it was nice, I got gifts, and he got gifts, and of course since my first was a girl, I at least needed new clothes. I knew I wanted more kids, so I kept as much as possible. On top of that my son had jaundice, and the 20 minutes he spent in the sun, did more for him than the 2 weeks he was under the stupid bili-light,lol.
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 9:48 PM
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If you just make it a party to welcome baby then people will bring gifts if the want to....I think that would be ok.
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