Is anyone else's 2 1/2 yr old like this?

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  • Mommyof2n13
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:45 AM

• Sounds like your talking about Eli  (my baby boy he will be 3 in Aug.)  He just got out of Early Childhood Intervention because of his speech delay. The energy seems to never ever stop..I mean Im so tired Buy 12 in the afternoon I could drop..Im hoping its a stage because I have 2 more babies right behind him...So much fun! Good luck and dont feel bad I am right there with you!

  
  
  

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  • Arelf27
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:55 AM

• I have dd4 who was very much a handfull at that age. She started turning around at 31/2. And trust me just like you I was worried that she will never come around.. Even though I read all those articles about terrible two's and how that's just a phase, still I was affraid dd will never pass that stage..lol

  So trust me, just wait a bit and he will become a different boy in a year.. I mean dd still has her moments even now and some days she's a total sweatheart and next day she doesn't listen, whines, all drama, etc.

  I think there are a couple of problems at play here.. NAP was a big one for us.. DD also gave up napping around 1 (when she started daycare). The problem is she still NEEDED to nap. Because on those rare days when she managed to fall asleep her behavior was completely diffferent. We figured she was just exhausted when she didn't take a nap and would go into overdrive mode and that's when difficult behaviour would start. That said you can't make your ds fall asleep if he doesn't want to but def. do quiet hour where he has to stay in his bed playing quietly with toys or reading books or listening to music.. Chances are he might fall asleep 2/3 times a week..
  

  Also speach thing is a big one. All the books say terrible two's happen because kids this age start to see themselves separate from parents and therefore they begin to have their own I and their own wants but they get frustrated because they don't have the language skills yet to express these desires and to get what they want.. But as kids gain the necessary language skills and begin to express themselves and are understood their frustrations lessen and the terrible two's ends.. So by you helping him aquire the necessary lang. skills that's def. a step in the right direction..

  I also have DS who's a little over 2 and is going through terrible two's but he's SOOO different. From the get-go he was such an easier baby and his terrible two's don't even compare to dd's lol.
  

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  • luvbeinamommy68
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 1:04 AM

• thank you all for all the advice and seeing that im not alone. i knew i wasnt but there are those times when you feel like you are. i am so tired now. its a little after midnight and he just now fell asleep! so i am finally going to bed!

  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

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  • luvbeinamommy68
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 1:10 AM

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  Quoting mitch576:
  
  

  speech delay huh? yes

  hyper? yes

  does he make and MAINTAIN eye contact? he can make it but wont maintain it

  does he play appropriately with his toys or is he lining them up? he throws his toys ALL the time

  does he "digga digga" or make some other adorable little vocalization? he does alot of babbling like a 1yr old

  do things like walking barefoot... or certain fabrics annoy or distress him? no

  does he sleep well?  at all? no

  i ask because my oldest son was similar... he is great now so don't panic... but i would be a jerk if i avoided this post.. like i had wanted too...and or wasn't completely honest.

  my son is highly intelligent, he is mainstreamed, he participates in sports and has "normal" friends.

  but he is autistic... he also has co-morbid adhd and oppositional defiant disorder.

   he is not medicated... at all.  it has been a long road which started with extreme hyper activity.

  on the adhd scale, at 3... he scored more than 2 standard deviations above what was needed for adhd.

  jesus... we had to pry that kid from the rafters. it was hell.  good thing i was young... no matter where i went i was practically body slamming the kid to keep him under control. he was a runner... he was a climber... he was houdini...

  everywhere i went i was dripping in sweat and my make up running down my face. no exaggeration! i had dr.s offering me meds for me! yeah! he was too young to even consider medication. i wasn't willing anyway... found a good old school dr. who reccomended coffee!

  yes, coffee!  coffee helps counter act hyper activity. coolest thing i have ever seen! and it works!

  you give them a little... with extra milk and just a touch of sugar. that's it... he will calm down.

  he has a speech delay mom? call early intervention. it is key to get a child help if they need it! it will make all the difference! and occupational therapist will also work with you both to teach you and him " sensory techniques" so he can self regulate.

   look... i'm not saying he is autistic... i am in no way able to make such a statement.  what i am saying is... if you recognise these issues... deal with them! and things will be ok... he may just have an isolated speech delay... or an isolated sensory issue which does happen...and is no big deal. but should be dealt with.

  my son's prognosis is good mom.. he will grow up, go to college and marry if he so chooses...and have hyper, speech delayed kids just like him who will their way just like he has.

  but i mention it mom.. because what type of person would i be if i didn't? you know?

  
  

   

  i already have a teacher that comes from Rainbows to work with him. she says that he is doing real well on his speech, even though he is still behind. she has also noticed that his behavior has changed and how much more active he is. i am planning on talking to her more about it also. she has been working with him for over a year now.

  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

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  • aridattebayo
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:35 AM

• YES!  You are not alone, mama!
  

  My daughter is 2 1/2, speech delayed and very "lively" - she's been calming down a little though, Early Intervention sent out a Special Instructor (in addition to the SLP) to work with her on focusing, finishing things, and sitting still and she's now sitting still for preferred tasks (stuff she likes to do) with her teacher for 1/2 hour at a time. (Most 2 year olds have NO attention span, if they sit for 3 minutes, that's great, Arianna's old SLP said) She's been in EI now for almost a year (will be a year in September) and also Early Headstart, and has made wonderful progress, for the most part.

  
  

  I'd definately talk to his Early Intervention people if he is in Early Intervention, they've helped me alot with dealing with my daughter's activeness (she's not super-hyper, but she's lively.).

  
  

  
  

  

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  • HuntersMomee
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:46 AM

• holy crap you just explained my son down to every last point..... and he is still the same way and is almost 4 now.

  im pretty sure he is hyper active. i dont want him on meds this young tho....if it gets out of hand or we cant control it once he starts school i will think about it. but for now.... i just try to do things with him that wear him out and gets him tired. then he will sit and be calm for a while. you just have to be really active with him. its exhausting ( especially now that im this far pregnant and about to have another.... ) but it really helps.

  my son doesnt nap either... but if i get him outside, running around and playing hard sometimes he will come in and lay down and sleep for like an hour.

  the beach or pool is almost always a guarunteed nap for him.

  his food. i try to make it interesting sometimes so its fun to eat it.
  ( hot dog octopuses and stuff like that )

  my son doesnt get a lot of sugar ( he really doesnt need any help, lol )

  he had a speech therapist too... and it worked out well for him.... he did calm down once he started talking better and could tell us what he wanted or what was wrong with him.

  before it was really hard to deal with him because he couldnt tell us what was wrong, so he would just cry or act out because he didnt know what else to do.

  for some quiet time...get down on the floor with him and color pictures or play cars with him, or some kind of game you think would catch his interest.

  i made a folder full of paper and one page i did all the colors. another page numbers. letters. shapes and so on....when ever i would need a break and just want to sit for a few minutes we go that out and would go over it. he learned his shapes and colors quick and numbers 1-10 he can recognize written down. and for letters we are still working on it. but he can write most of his name  on his own now.... and if i write it down for him he can copy it and write the whole thing :) so you can do some things with him to teach him new things.

  sidewalk chalk is amazing too. lol. he will sit there forever and color outside.

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  • Loa1002
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:52 AM

• How much processed food does he eat? I would examine and even write a food journal and see if you have better days than other days.... If you see no difference I would take him to naturopathic doctor. They believe in healing from the inside and do not use meds.

  GL. Sorry if I was not much help.

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  • single_and_preg
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:54 AM

• My 10 month old doesnt take naps, he hasnt since he was 8 weeks old. He wakes up before 8 am and doesnt go to bed till 11:30 pm, it drives me crazy, I try to get him to sleep by 8 pm, but he will just cry for about 3 hours untill he falls asleep. I've talked to the doctor about it, they arent concerned at all. He wont sit still, he doesnt like to be held, he just wants to crawl and wander around on his own. He will pitch a fit if you pick him up. So im worried im also going to have problems with him as he gets older

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  • AZM
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:59 AM

• well my sons are older naw but back when my son were your sons age they were hyper

    but they took naps sometimes my oldest son had speech delays he also does not know how to read or write that well or coarse my son use to bang his head with his fistes and on the walls and spit when he was mad he is 12 now both my son were diagnosed with ADHD

    and my oldest son was diagnosed with mild retardism it your son is still acting this way when he reaches 31/2 or 4 have him tested for ADHD as for your son getting into things mine did that to even with the toddler safety thing I know how you feel.

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  • WildKat
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 11:03 AM

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  Quoting luvbeinamommy68:
  
  

  
  

  Quoting mitch576:
  
  

  speech delay huh? yes

  hyper? yes

  does he make and MAINTAIN eye contact? he can make it but wont maintain it

  does he play appropriately with his toys or is he lining them up? he throws his toys ALL the time

  does he "digga digga" or make some other adorable little vocalization? he does alot of babbling like a 1yr old

  do things like walking barefoot... or certain fabrics annoy or distress him? no

  does he sleep well?  at all? no

  i ask because my oldest son was similar... he is great now so don't panic... but i would be a jerk if i avoided this post.. like i had wanted too...and or wasn't completely honest.

  my son is highly intelligent, he is mainstreamed, he participates in sports and has "normal" friends.

  but he is autistic... he also has co-morbid adhd and oppositional defiant disorder.

   he is not medicated... at all.  it has been a long road which started with extreme hyper activity.

  on the adhd scale, at 3... he scored more than 2 standard deviations above what was needed for adhd.

  jesus... we had to pry that kid from the rafters. it was hell.  good thing i was young... no matter where i went i was practically body slamming the kid to keep him under control. he was a runner... he was a climber... he was houdini...

  everywhere i went i was dripping in sweat and my make up running down my face. no exaggeration! i had dr.s offering me meds for me! yeah! he was too young to even consider medication. i wasn't willing anyway... found a good old school dr. who reccomended coffee!

  yes, coffee!  coffee helps counter act hyper activity. coolest thing i have ever seen! and it works!

  you give them a little... with extra milk and just a touch of sugar. that's it... he will calm down.

  he has a speech delay mom? call early intervention. it is key to get a child help if they need it! it will make all the difference! and occupational therapist will also work with you both to teach you and him " sensory techniques" so he can self regulate.

   look... i'm not saying he is autistic... i am in no way able to make such a statement.  what i am saying is... if you recognise these issues... deal with them! and things will be ok... he may just have an isolated speech delay... or an isolated sensory issue which does happen...and is no big deal. but should be dealt with.

  my son's prognosis is good mom.. he will grow up, go to college and marry if he so chooses...and have hyper, speech delayed kids just like him who will their way just like he has.

  but i mention it mom.. because what type of person would i be if i didn't? you know?

  
  

  
  

  i already have a teacher that comes from Rainbows to work with him. she says that he is doing real well on his speech, even though he is still behind. she has also noticed that his behavior has changed and how much more active he is. i am planning on talking to her more about it also. she has been working with him for over a year now.

  My son just turned 5 and he goes for speech and occupational therapy for sensory issues, he is reading at a 2nd grade level and will start kindergarten in fall.  He is a handful and exhausts me and tries my patience on a regular basis, but I do love him.  And as hard as it is - I agree with what mitch576 is saying.  Don't assume they're going to label and medicate your child.  There are a lot of services out there, some of which may help him regulate.  Why not look into that? 

  Good luck and peace,

  Kat
  

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