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Children not allowed...me time?
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on Jul. 4, 2009 at 6:10 PM
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I have been wondering about this for awhile now. Im not sure how I feel about going on vacation without my son whom is 2 1/2. Me and his dad are separated and this summer I really want to get away for a week, just me! Sometimes I think it would be fine and other times not so much. I have never left him over night, let alone an entire week. I am so confused. I know other moms who have left their babies for weeks at a time. Advice would be nice.
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 6:22 PM
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I left mine for four days with his grandparents, he was 7 mos at the time and he did just fine.
Quoting Meadow2215:
Who here has actually left their children and when you did, how did they handle it?
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 6:22 PM
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Yeah take the vacation!
Quoting KairisMama:
I think if you need a week for YOU, then you should take one. There is nothing wrong with doing that imo. As long as he has reliable family to care for him, and he will be in good hands, go for it.
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 6:26 PM
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So everything I am hearing is positive so I am going to seriously start making plans to get away!
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 6:28 PM
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My husband and I went to Hawaii a couple of months ago and my daughter stayed with my mom for the week. It was the first time I left her too (she turns 2 tomorrow). She had a great time and it was it was great for me. I had a great time, I actually got to sleep and relax and when I came home I felt like a better mom. The first day was a little hard and weird but in the end it was worth it. You should do it!
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 6:33 PM
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Lately, I have been so frustrated with everything...I just want a break! I am so snappy with my son, and I know it's only because I feel overwhelmed and exhausted. I really do need a vacation!
Quoting oceanus407:
My husband and I went to Hawaii a couple of months ago and my daughter stayed with my mom for the week. It was the first time I left her too (she turns 2 tomorrow). She had a great time and it was it was great for me. I had a great time, I actually got to sleep and relax and when I came home I felt like a better mom. The first day was a little hard and weird but in the end it was worth it. You should do it!
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 6:33 PM
- when my oldest was 8 months old I had to go help my Grandmother with my grandfathers funeral while not my Idea of a vacation I did have to leave her with my husband for 8 days. I had never left her over night before. She did better than I had ever imagined. I think if you need a vaca than you both will be happier with you relaxed and rested. Like others have said if he does great with his dad than why not?
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 7:41 PM
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oh sweety... not the right group.. not the right group to ask at all!
you will ... in some subversive, passive aggressive manner... be chastised for such a question.
always be "amatures" by the way.
i have three kids.... and i have vacationed not only without my children.. but without my husband too!
i personally feel that it is healthy... for all parents to take one week a year.
i'm not talking about every other month... one week a year! you deserve it and your child will survive one week.
you will not cause irrevocable damage.. with a week... you will not have to dedicate thousands to psycho therapy.
it's a week...and being a human being, you deserve a week.
a week to miss your son...a week to breathe...a week to not change diapers... a week to spend time with friends.
a week... out of 52. is not much! and you do deserve it!
there is nothing selfish about a week. if you are stressed and what have you... what kind of mom are you really being? not your 100% best. that's a fact. not if you are stressed and wound too tight to think straight.
go for a week... it will help you feel better... and in turn you will be better when you get back and resume your mom duties.
you will miss your child... but sometimes that is a good thing. to miss the ones we love just for a short period. it makes you appreciate what you have a little more.
ADMIN FOR AUTISM, ASPERGER'S, PDD AWARENESS.
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 8:00 PM
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Quoting Meadow2215:
Who here has actually left their children and when you did, how did they handle it?
last year my husband and i took the honeymoon we didn't take back in the day. my youngest was about 2 and a half.she did ok... she was with my parents and was fine up until we got back. she was clingy for about 2 weeks after that... couldn't leave the room without her crying... but about 2 weeks went by and it was like nothing ever upset her.
this year... i went to visit friends from cafe mom out on the west coast. i literally got back... 3 a.m. yesterday morning from logan airport in boston. { delayed due to fog}
i talked to my children daily... they were fine! the youngest is 3... was absolutely fine! she knew, that like the last time.. mommy would be back eventually. i was gone only 6 days this time.
no hubby.. no children. i have been a dedicated stay at home mom for 7 years! my oldest has high functioning autism, adhd and oppositional defiant disorder. on top of being a mom... i'm a lawyer, a councelor, a therapist, an advocate.... but regardless of all of that... i am human.
i need time, just like you.. to have a moment to think and breathe. to shit in the morning... without an audience. to have a martini by the pool without fear of losing track of a child.
to have an adult conversation.. with a friend... without vomit on my shirt or boogers on my jeans.
you go... he will be with his daddy.. he will be loved and cared for. it will be o.k.
and when you get back... you will be refreshed and better at what you do as a mom.
ADMIN FOR AUTISM, ASPERGER'S, PDD AWARENESS.
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- by on Jul. 4, 2009 at 8:08 PM
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I had a hard time just letting my parents watch our oldest for a weekend but my husband and I needed OUR time. We're hoping to go to Myrtle Beach later this month w/o our boys. Don't feel bad about leaving your son. It help you to relax.
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