My aunt offended me so bad today..in front of a bunch of family members!

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  • JasKat3
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 8:14 PM

• I know Excatly where your're coming from!! My DH and I finally got married this past Oct.. But we've been together for almost 8 and with 2 kids.

  His family is the same.. not just one Aunt.. just about everybody!! Although it always hurt.. It just got to the point where I'll either stay quiet or just agree... Like "when are you getting married??" My answer: "soon" or "I dont know" or "someday" then I'll just change the subject or walk away.

  Hope things get better for you. Being Married does not whatsoever mean being a better parents!!!

  

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  • Kaybean
  on Jul. 5, 2009 at 11:31 AM

• Yes exactly lol. We are getting married..just haven't yet. My sister and her bf are planning on getting engaged soon themselves and my brother and SIL just got married 5 months ago and are having their big reception coming up so we're having to take turns. We haven't picked a time that will work yet because I have 2 other siblings planning their's soon as well.
  

  Quoting mommam58122:
  
  

  SHE NEVER SAID SHE DIDNT WANT TO GET MARRIED SHE JUST SAID THEY ARENT MARRIED YET
  

  Quoting LA8YBUG:
  
  

  That was very rude of her to say.  I would be pissed off as well.  Is there a reason you guys don't want to get married?

  sorry about the caps i was tooo lazy to turn it off lol
  

  
  

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  • darcyk10
  on Jul. 5, 2009 at 11:35 AM

• I feel for you. I also have shitty inlaws.

  

  
  

  

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  • Mikey
  on Jul. 5, 2009 at 11:39 AM

• what a judgemental bitch ur aunt is. take this as a learning experience to know that next time instead of instinctively not saying n e thing cuz ur in shock to just go ahead and respond back with exactly how u feel. ppl like that need t/b put in their place. don't even worry about being rude cuz she had no prob being rude herself.
  

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  • savannahnhi
  on Jul. 5, 2009 at 11:40 AM

• She has the right to her opinion but she does not have to be rude about it.
  

  

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  • bananaapplepie
  on Jul. 5, 2009 at 11:42 AM

• i hardly never talk to my dads family since i had my dd... its like what do u want me to do, get an abortion? Yes, im a single mom, but its better than getting married then divorced later on... OH and then my holiest uncle has a 7 yr old dd out of wedlock that he  hid for almost 5 years without telling anyone but everyone accepts her and NOT my dd (who is the first GREAT granddaughter, adn my gpa has only seen her like 3 times in her 2 year existence and he lives less tahn a half hour away from me!!)

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  • Buffy65
  on Jul. 5, 2009 at 11:42 AM

• You did the right thing by not giving her a response. Unfortunately, you allowed her the power to ruin your day. I'm sure the rest of the witnesses to her remark felt the same way you did. SHE'S the one who should feel embarrassed for making an ass of herself.

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  • ljsmamma07
  on Jul. 5, 2009 at 11:43 AM

• ha i would have been like "oh yeah there is something we need to tell you..WERE PREGNANT!" sorry im a bit evil.

  i have a aunt like that. when me and my dh got engaged, she walked up and looked at my ring and said "ha! that will never happen" and walked away. i started walking after her and one of my other aunts got inbetween us and pulled me away. unfortantly its just something you have to deal with.sorry hun.

  
  
  

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  • lvlymummy08
  on Jul. 5, 2009 at 11:47 AM

• I know how you feel, except for me it was my mother. The thing with her was that we were legally married but just because we weren't married in the church (we're catholic) she wouldn't accept it. She RUINED our first anniversary because in her mind it wasn't 'real'. She also wouldn't talk, or be happy about my pregnancy until we had the marirage blessed, then everything was hunky dory practically overnight. Just try not to let it bother you. It's your own life and she shouldn't judge.
  

  

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  • Sheley
  on Jul. 5, 2009 at 11:47 AM

• I would have just laughed it off and laughed in her face.  What is the difference of being married or not, marriage doesnt allow you to have children anymore.  That kind of stuff never bothered me and it doesnt matter to me when people say those kinds of things.  Im not married yet and have a child.  Who cares really.  I wouldnt be embarrassed over that, sounds like your aunt just made a fool of herself, not you.
  

  
  

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