My daughters were at my mom's house with my sister. (I was there too but I was in the bathroom) I heard my sister scream "No Sofi!" To my daughter and I hurried up and went to see what was wrong. As soon as I got to my sisters room my sister said "I'm sorry but I had to spank her" I said "Why?!?! what happened??" She said that my daughter Sofi pulled my other daughters hair so hard that her head was close to the floor. I'm not a big believer in spanking - especially someone else doing it to my own children. I told my sister that although she felt that was necessary, I will not allow her to spank my kids. I told her that even if I am not there to just pull her away from the incident, give her a firm NO and put her in time out (she is 2 years old) She agreed and I don't think she was offended. Hubby didn't think it was necessary for me to say something.... but I just didn't feel right about it. I love my sister dearly but I just had to... What do you think???
I think waiting until another time where you could explain to her that you don't spank would have been better. However if you do not want people to discipline your children you need to be with them 100% of the time. I do not like other's to discipline my children either so I never leave them. It seems extreme but I just feel they are my children, my responsibility.
I agree. I am with them 100% of the time. But, it was literally me going to the bathroom for 2 minutes and this happens.
Quoting Dzyre1115:
I think waiting until another time where you could explain to her that you don't spank would have been better. However if you do not want people to discipline your children you need to be with them 100% of the time. I do not like other's to discipline my children either so I never leave them. It seems extreme but I just feel they are my children, my responsibility.
My youngest son who is 31 months old always fights with his 32 month old cousin. And my son always I mean always gets in trouble by me to not do it.... But, my nephew would be the one to start the fights and would smack my son hard in the face and my bro and his ole lady used to just tell him NO and not doing anything just a firm NO. And he would still do it. My Son fights back and they fist fight. So, I just tell them they need to tell there son to knock it off. I think your sis should have at least asked you tell your kid not to do that anymore. I know I wouldn't like my SIL or Bro spanking my Kids. I guess that is just the way I am on that part. I mean I like to discipline my own kids. You know?
If she apologized to you then she knew that's not how you discipline your children and went against your wishes. I believe you were totally in the right for explaining to her how things need to be handled in the future.
So you take them to the bathroom with you even at a family function???
Quoting Dzyre1115:
I think waiting until another time where you could explain to her that you don't spank would have been better. However if you do not want people to discipline your children you need to be with them 100% of the time. I do not like other's to discipline my children either so I never leave them. It seems extreme but I just feel they are my children, my responsibility.
-Cat
I am with you on this one, and I deal with it a lot with my family. They feel (if they're watching the kids/ I'm busy in another room) they have a right to physically discipline my children with swats to the hand or bottom. Every time this happens I flip my lid. No one (regardless of if they're watching my child) has a right to put their hands on them! I don't feel you did anything wrong and it sounds like your sister understood which is great. I just wish I could make my sister understand.
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