wedding gifts for couples who live together before hand
Seems like we are being invited to more and more weddings where the couples have lived together before getting married. And for each of these weddings, a registry is still made and a gift still expected. Here are my problems with this scenario:
1) As a Christian, I believe that living together before marriage is wrong.
2) If you've lived together for several years, own your house already, etc, you have all the stuff you need--the whole point of bridal shower gifts/wedding gifts was to help get the couple started with things for their new home.
3) Many of these couples (in fact, all in our case) are WAY better off than we are. We have 4 kids, 2 mortgages right now (can't sell our other house), one income, etc. The current couple I refer to, combined, make well over $100,000/year! That's more than DOUBLE what we make!
Does anyone else have a problem with this? And if so, how do you address/handle it? I plan to get a gift and I don't MIND getting a gift, it just sort of rubs me the wrong way about a registry. Yes, a wedding is a time to celebrate and a celebration is cause for gifts, so absolutely will we give one. It's just, I guess I feel like the real reason for the registry and gifts got lost, KWIM? (Everyone seems to be missing the part in red...)
ETA: The reason I mention the finances is--they have been together since h.s. They have nice things :) The couple happens to be good friends of my hubby's, from childhood. And just b/c I don't agree/support they way they've done things doesn't mean I don't want to celebrate their marriage. I was looking for some suggestions on what I could get/do etc or how others who may feel this way handle it. I wasn't looking to get bashed for how I FEEL.