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He tells me you know what house wives do......???

Posted by on Jul. 28, 2009 at 1:31 PM
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Yup thats what my hubby told me the only problem is IDK what to do!!!!! 

This was my reply in another group,... and I am sorry this is how i feel about being home all the time please understand before i met my husband in 2005 i was a single mom for the frist 4years of my child's life i had to work no one else did. I was one of those moms with the 1 yr old in day care i stayed home with my son till he was 6 months old and then went back to work, and i worked about 60 hrs a week then, as he got older i picked up the hours and the money and had a great career for one of the leading celluar companies as a Operational manager, all that came to a hult in Nov of 08 when i started having seizures and my life got flip floped around. we lost most of our income since i made the most and now we are struggling but dealing to get by each month seems to get better..... 

This is just me but after a while they SAHM thing gets old you can clean and cook only so much.. Now my kid is 7 so he is in School and gone most of the day and after that no one is home with us, so i get bored.  I went from working 70 hrs a week making 60 to 80K a year.... to working nada and being stuck in my house with no car no life no people no nothing.... I HATE IT!! hate cooking I hate cleaning I hate being home, I could care less about being here all day for my family.  They are big boys  and girls and can take care of themselves.... My house is 2 19 yrs olds my hubby and my son.... But no i am stuck here....being driven crazy all day by my 7 yr old and doing everyones laundry and cleaning.....  all the freaking time.  expected to clean up after all of them and cooking for them bs that! 

I am not home by choice for anyone that says then go to work.. I have a medical condition i have uncontroled seizures and they are switching my meds all the time i have been on 14 meds in the last year and can't work right now under doctors ORDERS NO WORKING OUTSIDE THE HOME , or drive that state took away my lincense i have a car i just can't drive it , or be out by myself ..this means I can NOT take my child OUT by ourselves we have to have another adult... I have a whoolllle list from my doctor that im not allowed to do......

...  I don't see any value to staying home (IMO) this is nothing to be proud of this isn't something i can go to my son's school on career day and say what i do . so now my kid has no one to go I wouldn't let my hubby go he is the step father, my job is all that school stuff. So what i can go tell them im a glorified "maid" wow... great life for me.. I have a son i want him to be Proud of his mom to say My mom did this..staying home isn't teaching him anything i can't teach my son to be a sahm i can't teach that! that would be bad!  

 now i am home and i am BORED OUT OF MY FREAKING MIND!  any ideas at all on what i can do to pass the time?   I am bored and in need of a hobby! my hobby has always been my son and my work and my family.  that was all there was to life!   

 

 I am Kritterz a Tattoo Lovin, Married to a Punk Rocker, Pro Legalizing Weed, Co sleeping, Vax my Kid, anti-Obama, Pro Choice, former single mom,  non-believer in "god"  Thinks the "public schools" are too involved with the at home life..   former bottle feeding, , Jersey Girl, Bi Sexual, Porn watching Pro Spanking,, True blood watcher Twlight Lover Harry Potter Fan,, I love my son to death he is my heart and my soul and I raise my kid how i want,your approval isn't needed if you don't like how i think or feel you can stick it in your juice box and suck on it.                             

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momaof8
by Gold Member on Jul. 28, 2009 at 1:36 PM

I am very proud to be a SAHM. I am giving my kids an awesome gift. I would go to my sons school and talk about What I do. We homeschool, but I am very involved in a CO-Op in our area.

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WAHM_Teresa
by on Jul. 28, 2009 at 1:38 PM

If your youngest is 7yrs old then why don't you get a job while he's at school?  Even being the lunch lady would get you out of the house, making some money of your own, and still have time off the same as your kiddo.

savedbygrace316
by on Jul. 28, 2009 at 1:38 PM

Read, get a puzzle book, research your favorite subject, research your family tree.  Is there anyway you can volunteer?  Something not too demanding?

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Neeters1
by on Jul. 28, 2009 at 1:47 PM

It is tough being a stay at home Mom.  I have 2 boys and one that has autism and so it can get very tiresome as like you I feel like I am always cooking, cleaning, and taking care of everything else all of the time.  I feel that sometimes I need to get a job to get a break, or to do something different.  But I also am glad that I am home with my boys as no one else is raising my children other then myself.  But with your children going to school, and you are home and doing nothing but cooking, cleaning, and all of them fun things, I can totally understand what you are feeling.  Is there a craft or a hobby that you can get into?  I know that most crafts or hobbies can take money, but maybe you can make something and then sell it like on the internet and make some money that way.  I know that because I am not working money has been tight, and it was fine for a while when we had the kids, but now it is really hard as the ecomey is just bad..


Good luck and I hope that you will be able to find something to help keep you busy so that you can have time for you and to do something for you... :)

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mmtosam06
by Platinum Member on Jul. 28, 2009 at 1:50 PM

what about sewing im learning how to sew 

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tattedmommynlj
by on Jul. 28, 2009 at 1:54 PM

RIght there with ya Momma! cept im not forced to be home because of illness... I am home because I can not get a job... the jobs ive had i wa lucky to get cuz either they were hiring for the xmas season and were hiring anyone and everyone that could pass a piss test or because i knew someone who worked there and they got me the job and ive been to a trade school TWICE! My 3yo is at daycare because he loves it (and started there when i was working) and if not for that he wouldnt get the chance to be around other kids and he can get a better lesson than i can do by myself at home. Im just not that much of a super mom.

 I am NOT a housekeeper and i am married to have a PARTNER who does everything WITH me.

The only thing i can suggest is scrapbooking :-) it definately takes up time. otherwise find some stay at home mommas who can come visit.... i had a friend that i went and hung out with her and had my morning cup of coffee with every day.. she kept me sane. unfortunately i've moved halfway across the country and have yet to find anyone as interesting or has enough time to do anything. it sucks ass.

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Ladyinthewater
by on Jul. 28, 2009 at 1:57 PM


Quoting tattedmommynlj:

RIght there with ya Momma! cept im not forced to be home because of illness... I am home because I can not get a job... the jobs ive had i wa lucky to get cuz either they were hiring for the xmas season and were hiring anyone and everyone that could pass a piss test or because i knew someone who worked there and they got me the job and ive been to a trade school TWICE! My 3yo is at daycare because he loves it (and started there when i was working) and if not for that he wouldnt get the chance to be around other kids and he can get a better lesson than i can do by myself at home. Im just not that much of a super mom.

 I am NOT a housekeeper and i am married to have a PARTNER who does everything WITH me.

The only thing i can suggest is scrapbooking :-) it definately takes up time. otherwise find some stay at home mommas who can come visit.... i had a friend that i went and hung out with her and had my morning cup of coffee with every day.. she kept me sane. unfortunately i've moved halfway across the country and have yet to find anyone as interesting or has enough time to do anything. it sucks ass.


yes there is my problem too we just moved! ugh i know like no one here cept for his friends we moved to where my hubby was born and raised cuz jobs are still promising here.... ugh it does suck

 I am Kritterz a Tattoo Lovin, Married to a Punk Rocker, Pro Legalizing Weed, Co sleeping, Vax my Kid, anti-Obama, Pro Choice, former single mom,  non-believer in "god"  Thinks the "public schools" are too involved with the at home life..   former bottle feeding, , Jersey Girl, Bi Sexual, Porn watching Pro Spanking,, True blood watcher Twlight Lover Harry Potter Fan,, I love my son to death he is my heart and my soul and I raise my kid how i want,your approval isn't needed if you don't like how i think or feel you can stick it in your juice box and suck on it.                             

CjEmmemommy
by on Jul. 28, 2009 at 2:05 PM

I love being a SAHM, I love being the one to raise my kids and see them change. If they go to school I will still want to be home when they get here so I can make sure they have help with homework, rides and staying out of trouble.

 I can understand that you are bored when the kids are at school and since you don't have a car your options are limited but you can always take up a class at the Y and take the bus!

 I think changing your attitude about the situation will help though, I would never show up to career day and say I do nothing. I am enriching my children's lives and doing the only job I think a mother should have( at least while the kids are young).

 Good Luck.

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Paesana82
by on Jul. 28, 2009 at 2:23 PM

Are you depressed at all? I mean, you started having seizures, you had to quit doing something you enjoyed and something that made you feel good. I think that's enough to make someone depressed.

In any case, you are def looking at this the wrong way. You say your son is 7yrs? That's still young enough that you can do stuff with him, take him places. There's no need to stay home all day.

And, I am NOT a gloified maid. That's pretty insulting to SAHMs.....there's a lot a SAHM can do, but you have to actually get up and do something! Do stuff with your son, do something for yourself, get a hobby, ANYTHING.

Anyway, I can understand being down about your situation, but life is what you make of it. If you are depressed about everything, then you should go get help. Otherwise, you need a new outlook on your life and you need to get some meaning out of it. Think of it this way....everyone says being a mom shouldn't be the only thing that defines you. Well, in your case, it sounds like your job is what defined you. You are much more than a job title. You know what I'm trying to say????

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HybridMom27
by on Jul. 28, 2009 at 2:26 PM
Why not go back to school, online? Or can you arrange for rides or to take the bus so you can work while he's in school?

Yes, it sucks that you have a medical condition that makes it difficult to drive. But there ARE things you can do, just be creative.

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