I am bi and hubby has always known this since we have been together i have had girlfriends and he has been really great about it and has never pressured or even asked for me to give him a threesome but i know since he is a man he has probly thought about it more then once and to be honest i really would like to have a thresome with him but have always worried it some how would effect our marriage so i have a few question I am hoping some of you other bi moms who have had threesomes can answer for me.
1.have you ever had a threesome and how often do you have them?
2. has it ever caused issues in the marriage or relationship?
3.do you set limits or rules when you have threesomes and if yes what are they?
4. if you have never had a threesome but are bi have you ever just let your DH watch? and if yes how did that work out?
Thank you ladies and any other tips would be great also or if nothing else please at least bump for me!
I would suggest asking this in a sex group....but I personally do not agree with 3somes, or cheating...but I would never judge those relationships that allow it. So if you hubby is pretty much okay with you having sex with girls.....ummm...that is great. I guess if he were to want a threesome or want to watch and you and the girl are down for that...go for it. I would just make sure to have a safe word, and have set rules in place and make sure that all parties know the rules ahead of time.
yeah...not bi, much to my ex hubbs dismay...he was always pressuring me for a 3some though, apparently lots of the girls he worked with would ask him if I was into girls...wth???
He used to joke that he'd let us have kids once i gave him a 3some...well, i got my kid without doing it so that was great.
i think there would def have to be rules set before hand though. Maybe since you've never done it before, let him watch the 1st time, or if he feels okay and so do you and the other girl, he can join in. I'm not a big fan of sharing so I always told ex that IF it ever in frozen hell happened, the other woman wouldn't be allowed to touch him so what was the point...
GL with all that though
You have girlfriends outside of your marriage? If so then that could cause problems not a threesome. If it something that you both want to do - then you both need to sit down and honestly tell eachother what would bother you in that situation. For example he shouldnt leave you sitting in the corner while his whole concentration is on her and vice versa for you. also talk about what you want to get out of it - is this a one time thing - is this something you both are going to do again - talk about the person - and choose a woman that both of you will be happy with - and its probably a good idea to not pick one of your exs - I dont know much more advice - havent really been in that situation.
ummm...sorry never had to deal with that situation but if I were you I would know for sure that would cause problems in my marraige because one nobody can touch my man. that is mine and I dont like to share. But I think that if you do you both have to trust each other very much that either one wont go behing each others back and hook up alone with that other person. really dont know what else to say but gl with that
To each their own, but being Bi is not an excuse to have sex outside your marriage even if it is women. since your preferences go towards either sex, having relationships with women outside your marriage constitutes cheating no matter how you look at it.
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on Jul. 30, 2009 at 9:32 AM