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A TMI (sex) ?

Posted by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 8:47 PM
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I never feel like have any libido.  Am I the only one?  I am 29 yrs and feel like I should have something.  I have only felt "turned on" like 6-7 times and it's been like over a year since I had it last.  Is there anything I can do or take to help?  I just hope that there isn't something wrong with me...

by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 8:47 PM
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Gabeys_Mommy
by Silver Member on Aug. 12, 2009 at 8:50 PM

I haven't really had any since my son's birth almost 2 yrs ago. =(

lyranightshade
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 8:54 PM

That happens. Sometimes, it's a hormone imbalance. Talk to your gyno. Otherwise, I suggest porn. Try finding something that interests you and see if you can get turned on by that. Literotica is great for us chicks because we get stimulated by the fantasy and not so much visual. Otherwise, YouPorn. It's free and you have to wade through bad amateur stuff sometimes, but again.. free! lol So is literotica. I'm a big fan of porn and think it does have it's place in an adult relationship to spice things us. Have you thought about bringing toys into your sex life? You can buy online and it's totally confidential, in case you get embarrassed.

sweetsis23
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 8:56 PM

It is hard for me because I want to have those feelings along with my hubs.  How have you handled it?  Did you have it strongly before his birth?

Quoting Gabeys_Mommy:

I haven't really had any since my son's birth almost 2 yrs ago. =(


smilesalways26
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 8:56 PM

u say that but i deal with the same problem and they have done blood tests and my hormones are fine. I dont get why its like this :( sucks pretty bad.

Quoting lyranightshade:

That happens. Sometimes, it's a hormone imbalance. Talk to your gyno. Otherwise, I suggest porn. Try finding something that interests you and see if you can get turned on by that. Literotica is great for us chicks because we get stimulated by the fantasy and not so much visual. Otherwise, YouPorn. It's free and you have to wade through bad amateur stuff sometimes, but again.. free! lol So is literotica. I'm a big fan of porn and think it does have it's place in an adult relationship to spice things us. Have you thought about bringing toys into your sex life? You can buy online and it's totally confidential, in case you get embarrassed.


sweetsis23
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 9:00 PM

I have toys, and have no prob reaching the big O with them (TMI), but  it's all physical feeling and no (turn on, arousal) feelings.  I never feel like I am in the mood.

Quoting lyranightshade:

That happens. Sometimes, it's a hormone imbalance. Talk to your gyno. Otherwise, I suggest porn. Try finding something that interests you and see if you can get turned on by that. Literotica is great for us chicks because we get stimulated by the fantasy and not so much visual. Otherwise, YouPorn. It's free and you have to wade through bad amateur stuff sometimes, but again.. free! lol So is literotica. I'm a big fan of porn and think it does have it's place in an adult relationship to spice things us. Have you thought about bringing toys into your sex life? You can buy online and it's totally confidential, in case you get embarrassed.


lilay
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 9:08 PM

Sorry if this is TMI...I know what you mean. Ever since my having my DD 2 years ago I feel the same way.  I don't know if its the hormones, or the fact that it took us a year to conceive my DD and 6 months to conceive my son and it just made sex not fun, but it stinks. The other thing is I feel like my boobs are for feeding my kids now and nothing else, I don't know why but I just feel that way. I actually just started premarin cream 2 weeks ago because when I talk to my OB about it she said that my body was drained of estrogen because since November 2006 I have been either pregnant or nursing nonstop. Sex was actually becoming painful, in the past 2 weeks the pain has gone away but the urge hasn't come back yet, but I am still hopeful. My OB said that after I'm done nursing I can try something stronger if need be.  

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Mommy2twoboyz22
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 9:17 PM
No theres nothing wrong with you its just hard to switch from mom mode to wife mode
Im lindsey a young sah married christian church-going,bible-believing,non-gay supporting,100% pro-life mom with 2 boys ages 2 and 2 months.i vaccinate my kids,use formula,use cio method,prop my babies bottle sometimes,spank as form of disipline and i love my kids very much.
michelle121003
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 9:24 PM

I think sometimes women go through periods of not feeling it.  It may last for a week, a month, 6 months, years!  I've been through phases where I just don't feel like it!  I didn't feel sexy (that may be a big issue right there!!) so didn't want sex.  Right now I'm at a point in my life where I can't get enough!!  I feel comfortable with my body and want to feel sexy.  You have to really want to feel it, not just kinda.  There very well could be something going haywire with your hormones too, just need a blood test to tell.

     
 

MixedCooke
by on Aug. 13, 2009 at 3:24 AM

Nah, i am a hornball and can have it every night but my husband is the opposite, he can go a month without it.  Sometimes it is just after the baby and the hormones are off, drier down there due to breastfeeding,  stretch marks and added weight makes you uncomfortable in your own skin, etc, also sleep deprivation.

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