So I kinda think he would try something with my Daughter....
My best friends husband gives me the creeps...and he loves my little girl...Like he loves to hold her, and play with her...one night (while they were here) he offered to go into her room after I put her to bed....to calm her down...She was crying. I told him no, that I was her mother and I would do it....But my question is what do I do? I dont want to loose a good friend by telling her- her husband creeps me out. But I also know Im not going to leave her alone with him...So how do I take care of this without the drama...Do I need to cut ties??? Not to mention I have 2 little boys...older and younger the dd and he doesnt pay them any attention....Anyway Please help.....Thanks so much!
IMO losing a friendship is a SMALL thing compared to what your daughter might end up going through..you NEVER ignore a motherly instinct.
That's about the time I would look his name up on the sex offender site. And even if he was on there, then I would definitly cut ties because they LEGALLY by law have to tell you if he's a registered sex offender. If he's not, then I would pull them both aside one night and say, look, You guys are my friends, but I'm her mother, and (___________dude's name here), you're stepping on my toes by doing this, this, and this. If they truely are your friends, they will respect you decision to say that. If they are not truely your friends, they'll probably leave and they themselves will cut ties. You have to do whats best for you family and if losing a couple of friends is best, then you have to do it. I've had to do that with my family, and it was the hardest thing I ever had to do, but he was tearing my family apart. If you want the website for the national sex offender site, let me know and I'll get it to you. Good luck.
Quoting norasmama:
i think women are born with intuition, and i know that everytime i've had a gut feeling yet ignored it, it has bitten me in the butt.
listen to your instincts, mama. there is no way to 'know' until something actually happened, you know?
You know I never thought of it that way...not knowing untill it happens...and Morgan (dd) WILL not if I have anything to do with it...will NEVER go through that....Ugh it makes me sick thinking about it...I didnt even mention shes not even 2 yet, so she couldnt tell if something did happen...
Quoting jonesyj08:
That's about the time I would look his name up on the sex offender site. And even if he was on there, then I would definitly cut ties because they LEGALLY by law have to tell you if he's a registered sex offender. If he's not, then I would pull them both aside one night and say, look, You guys are my friends, but I'm her mother, and (___________dude's name here), you're stepping on my toes by doing this, this, and this. If they truely are your friends, they will respect you decision to say that. If they are not truely your friends, they'll probably leave and they themselves will cut ties. You have to do whats best for you family and if losing a couple of friends is best, then you have to do it. I've had to do that with my family, and it was the hardest thing I ever had to do, but he was tearing my family apart. If you want the website for the national sex offender site, let me know and I'll get it to you. Good luck.
yes please give it to me...I would really like to look him up....
Ditto this. I think that if you have a feeling something could happen, then there is a chance that something WILL happen. A friendship is NOT worth saving over your childs safety! Choose whats right for your little one!
Quoting norasmama:
i think women are born with intuition, and i know that everytime i've had a gut feeling yet ignored it, it has bitten me in the butt.
listen to your instincts, mama. there is no way to 'know' until something actually happened, you know?
Trust your instincts and pay careful attention when he's holding her. My uncle molested me when I was child and he would do it in front of a room full of people by holding me on his lap and rubbing when when no one was looking. I never told a soul because even though it didn't feel right, he did it in front of other people so I didn't realize it was wrong.
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