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I knew the father of my kids had a personality disorder!!

Posted by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 12:16 AM
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Question: Do you know a person who has the Narcisstic Personality Disorder?





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1. Self-centered. His needs are paramount.

2. No remorse for mistakes or misdeeds. 
3. Unreliable, undependable.

4. Does not care about the consequences of his actions.

5. Projects faults on to others. High 
blaming behavior; never his fault.

6. Little if any conscience.

. 7. Insensitive to needs and feelings of others.

8. Has a good front (persona) to impress and exploit others.

9. Low stress tolerance. Easy to anger and rage.

10. People are to be manipulated for his needs.

11. Rationalizes easily. Twists conversation to his gain at other’s expense. If trapped, keeps 
talking, changes the subject or gets angry.

12. Pathological lying.

13. Tremendous need to control situations, conversations, others.

14. No real values. Mostly situational.

15. Often perceived as caring and understanding and uses this to manipulate.

16. Angry, mercurial, moods.

17. Uses sex to control

18. Does not share ideas, feelings, emotions.

19. Conversation controller. Must have the first and last word.

20. Is very slow to forgive others. Hangs onto resentment.

21. Secret life. Hides money, friends, activities.

22. Likes annoying others. Likes to create chaos and disrupt for no reason.

23. Moody - switches from nice guy to anger without much provocation.

24. Repeatedly fails to honor financial obligations.

25. Seldom expresses appreciation.

26. Grandiose. Convinced he knows more than others and is correct in all he does.

27. Lacks ability to see how he comes across to others. Defensive when confronted with his behavior. Never his fault.

28. Can get emotional, tearful. This is about show or frustration rather than sorrow.

29. He breaks woman's spirits to keep them dependent.

30. Needs threats, intimidations to keep others close to him.

31. Sabotages partner. Wants her to be happy only through him and to have few or no outside interests and acquaintances.

32. Highly contradictory.

33. Convincing. Must convince people to side with him.

34. Hides his real self. Always “on”

35. Kind only if he's getting from you what he wants.

36. He has to be right. He has to win. He has to look good.

37. He announces, not discusses. He tells, not asks.

38. Does not discuss openly, has a hidden agenda.

39. Controls money of others but spends freely on himself.

40. Unilateral condition of, "I'm OK and justified so I don't need to hear your position or ideas"

41. Always feels misunderstood.

42. You feel miserable with this person. He drains you.

43. Does not listen because he does not care.

44. His feelings are discussed, not the partners.

45. Is not interested in problem-solving..

46. Very good at reading people, so he can manipulate them. Sometimes called gaslighting.

He has every SINGLE one of these!! He cheated on me while we were together, we have been seperated a year, and now he has a girlfriend, and he STILL sees the girl he cheated on me with, come to find out, he just had a baby with her, my son just told me!! It is not just the cheating that got me to determine this, I was with him 7 years and I am not kidding all 49 of these traits he has!!!! All of them! Anyone going through this as well? 

by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 12:16 AM
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by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 12:26 AM

That is it? No comments? 

by Emerald Member on Aug. 28, 2009 at 12:30 AM

Is there any treatment for it?    I have known some people to fit that description but havent ever been in a relationship with one.

by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 12:31 AM

Dude....that just totally describes my ex husband.  I just figured he was emotionally abusive and it stemmed from a shitty childhood.....but this describes him to a T...every little thing.


by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 12:31 AM

not all, but a lot of them 


by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 12:32 AM

OMG... i always knew there was something wrong with my kids' dad too! ugh... i hate him

by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 12:33 AM

Complete description of my ex and oldest son's dad, when I left him my life became bright and full of opportunities, also gave me the chance to meet my AMAZING UNBELIVABLE husband, he's the most amazing man in every way, takes such good care of me

by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 12:34 AM

a lot of those sound like my husband. ):` 

by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 12:36 AM

my boyfriend almost has every single one of those symptoms!

by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 12:39 AM

 My husband right now... sounds like that... His mom says he has another family actually... idk for real tho yet

by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 12:41 AM

 Wow, do your child and my child have the same biological father?  He was my best friend for more than eight years before DS was born, and still somehow I was blind to most of these traits.... until I got pregnant.

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